(Closed) Do bridesmaid dresses have to match with bridal gown?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I don’t think the dresses need to “go with” the gown, but they shouldn’t be wildly different styles… does that make sense? If for no other reason than that both sets of dresses should be roughly equivalent to the overall formality of the event (e.g. would wouldn’t – I hope – wear a princess ballgown at a tropical beach wedding)

For example, I have a tea length vintage style wedding dress, my one and only maid is wearing a short strapless dress. The styles are different but don’t look like they are from two different weddings.

Post # 4
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think to some degree, they need to go together. They can’t be totally different or it would look odd. To me, the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses should always be a bit simpler than the wedding dress, but that’s just me.

Post # 5
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

In short, no, they don’t have to match with your dress.  But.

Floor length satin is going to be brutal in the summer.  Your BMs will be sweaty little wilting flowers in that thing.  Be a pal and find something light and breezy.


This is a similar style and in chiffon which is a lot lighter of a fabric.  Floor length is still going to be pretty hot, especially since this is polyester lined but it’s better than that satin.

Post # 6
23602 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ditto on the satin in the summer.  Be careful with that!  But as long as it complements your dress you’re fine!

Post # 7
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@kerrimarie: I don’t think they need to be super matchy-matchy. It is a balance of similar enough but different enough that seems to set the right tone. My dress was an A-line Renaissance satin with a sweetheart neckline, ruching and four fabric flowers as detail on the left side. I had my bridesmaids in chiffon sheath dresses with sweetheart neckline or thin straps (one girl needed more support for her bust!) a small section of ruching and a single flower on the left. It was all complimentary, they each stood apart from each other but were alike enough to be pleasing to the eye. Hope this helps you!

Post # 8
719 posts
Busy bee

I’m having my bridesmaids wear a similar dress, but I don’t think it’s a hard and fast rule…I just really like the v-neck style with the empire waist  

Post # 9
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree that they should go together but that they do not have to match completely.  Same formality is a good point and I personally agree that the bridesmaids dresses should not be as elaborate as the brides.  I have two very different dresses in mind and have one bridesmaid dress picked out for each of them. (with my bridesmaids’ help of course).    


Post # 10
1767 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

As PPs have said, I think they need to be similar in formality, but they don’t have to “go.” For example, if you had a fun tea-length dress, you probably shouldn’t put your girls in floor-length satin, because the formality would be totally off. But other than that, i don’t think there are really any rules.

Then again, this is coming from the girl whose dress guidelines are “a knee-length black dress that doesn’t make you look like a hussy,” so take my advise with a grain of salt.

Post # 11
1088 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think they have to match the gown necessarily as long as they look nice and go along with the wedding and season. for example my wedding is in march and in Utah it’s pretty darn cold during that month and even though everything is taking place inside i felt it would be torture to have my girls in short dresses, so I chose long formal dresses for them

Post # 12
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hi no I don’t think that the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses have to match your gown. I just believe they shoild be flattering and represent the type of wedding it will be. Also, do your BM’s a fav put them in Chiffon and not satin it will be brutal that’s what I will be doing for my BMs so they can be comfy

Post # 14
60 posts
Worker bee

They only need to be similar enough so that they don’t clash. But my sister apparently thinks otherwise. She chose her bridesmaid dresses because they had bows on them and she has a sash.

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