Do bridesmaids dresses need to "match" the bride?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Beautiful dress! 

I personally don’t love tulle skirts for bridesmaids, but that’s just me.

My friend had a dress very similar to yours, she didn’t care what we wore as long as it was in the same color scheme but a few of us randomly ended up picking this dress from Lulu’s that can be worn a bunch of different ways and it went really well with the bride. Totally different from your vision but just a thought!


Post # 3
47337 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think the only thing that needs to match is the degree of formality. I actually think it would be rather odd to have the BM’s and the bride wear the same silhouette.

Post # 4
822 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Look at photos of matching and un-matching, but coordinated bridal parties online. Your reaction to that will help you make this decision.

My bridesmaids matched each other, but not me. They found their dress before I found mine. The photos are amazing and they really did love the dress, despite having very different body types across the board:) I do love the idea of letting your girls pick their own dress, especially if you are not paying for them. If your bridesmaids do not feel great in a dress, it will show in your pictures with their half-propped-cringe-grins. And ask how they feel about what you’re envisioning!

Post # 5
498 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I don’t think they need to be overly matchy-matchy (ie not the same silhouette). But I’m not sure if you are getting the same vibe from those two different styles. Does that make sense? The tulle skirts and cream tops feels a little more rustic to me than your dress. It might be worth seeing if you can find something that has the same vibe as your dress and still matches the venue and lets the bridesmaids feel unique and special. I like that Lulu’s dress, fwiw. 

Post # 6
764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I really like the second bridesmaid ensemble & I think it compliments your dress better than the first one.

I’m doing mismatched bridesmaid dresses as I wanted a “moonlit” color scheme and it’s not easy. Probably the hardest part of planning, lol!

Post # 7
867 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

I agree the bridesmaids don’t need to be overly matchy-matchy.  I picked a color palette for them to follow and then let them pick the style that flattered them most.  I like the look of the second Bridesmaid or Best Man option more.  Really my only comment would be, is the building rainforest themed or is it actually the a rainforest habitat?  If the latter I’d just make sure the skirts are breathable vs. feeling heavy and thick and I don’t know that I’d go with long sleeves.

Post # 8
1630 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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bluejaybride :  I agree with a PP, bridemaids only need to roughly match the formality of the bride.  Anything else is fair play! 

I had an all lace dress and my BM’s were in different colours and styles.  One had lace, a couple had chiffon and beading and all sorts of things, and it looked great.

The only other thing I’d be cautious about is their white tops clashing with your white dress if the colours are slightly different. 

Post # 9
9373 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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bluejaybride :  

Love the sage green skirt. I’d be careful though, as a pp says, that their white/ivory tops don’t make your dress look too dark or offcolour. And the lacy top in the first skirt pic looks way too bridal to me .

I love the plain silk camisole top ( hard to wear though if you don’t have a slim  body  with upstanding breasts) Maybe the green  skirted ones could wear a top  in palest blue and the blue skirted ones wear  a pale sage top?

Post # 10
1825 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I just told my bridesmaids to get burgundy floor-length gowns (from a couple different designers so the shades were the same) – I don’t care about silhouette. 

Post # 11
644 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

That is completely personal I think.

Some people want it matchy matchy matchy in all sorts of ways. 

Other people don’t care.

Also people might want it specifically NOT matchy matchy.

Personally, I did not care. When I went dress shopping my BFF found a dress she LOVED. I told her to get it, she asked what colour I said “I have no idea, you pick” (I had not come up with a color scheme yet lol). She said “it is your wedding, you pick” so I quickly just said “Gray or Purple” she opted for gray, which is how that became our main color lol. 

Months later I took my niece dress shopping and told her to pick out ANY dress in the store as long as it was gray. Well, she ended up picking the same designer and color as my Maid of Honor but a different style. *shrugs*. whatever works for them, works for me. I just want them to be comfortable. 

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