Post # 1
Hey there bees! I’m curious about your experiences and insight regarding choosing bridesmaid dresses- specifically, did you make a point to match the style to your dress?
I could also use some advice specific to mine- I said “yes” to a dress that I love this past weekend, and was surprised to find that it was rather different than I’d originally imagined. While as soon as I put it on, I knew that it was exactly how I wanted to look and feel on my wedding day, so I feel that it still captures the same “vibe”, I had pictured flowing tulle and a loose sheath or A-line, but I didn’t end up loving any of those as much as this form-fitting lace mermaid gown (mermaid was the one shape that I was sure I DIDN’T want lol). But I just love it, and even though it shows my belly a bit more than the A-lines and ballgowns I tried did, I felt fantastic in it and can’t wait to wear it on my wedding day! Anyways, as far as bridesmaids I’d been envisioning the girls in those long tulle skirts (in sage green or possibly 2 in sage and the other 2 in dusty blue) with their choice of cream/white top. Since we have a multi-colored color scheme, I feel like precise shade is important to pull it off, so I definitely wanted some cohesiveness, but I also want my friends to feel free to express their own style and wear whatever they felt comfortable in (for example, my one friend loves the way she looks in crop tops, another prefers sleeves, and one bridesmaid has a very different body type than the rest). I know that this look is pretty “trendy” right now, but I just really think it’s a flattering, ethereal, romantic and playful look, and all of the girls were excited about the idea (though we haven’t made a final decision yet). I’ll be wearing some sort of gold floral headpiece with a loose low bun during the ceremony, and then letting my hair down and replacing the gold piece with a colorful flower crown during the reception, and my girls will have either greenery clips or greenery crowns, so our styles will be tied together in that way. But do you think that the A-line tulle silhouette will look disproportionate next to my sleeker dress? Will the tulle clash, or overwhelm my simple gown? I’ll attach photos below of my dress, and a Pinterest example of the bridesmaids look. Oh and for context, we’re having our ceremony and reception at a rainforest building at a zoo, so it’s a natural/jungle, playful vibe but we still want it to feel romantic and elegant too. And beforehand we are taking photos in a nearby forest so we’ll also be in that woodland-y setting.
Post # 2
I personally don’t love tulle skirts for bridesmaids, but that’s just me.
My friend had a dress very similar to yours, she didn’t care what we wore as long as it was in the same color scheme but a few of us randomly ended up picking this dress from Lulu’s that can be worn a bunch of different ways and it went really well with the bride. Totally different from your vision but just a thought!
Post # 3
I think the only thing that needs to match is the degree of formality. I actually think it would be rather odd to have the BM’s and the bride wear the same silhouette.
Post # 4
Look at photos of matching and un-matching, but coordinated bridal parties online. Your reaction to that will help you make this decision.
My bridesmaids matched each other, but not me. They found their dress before I found mine. The photos are amazing and they really did love the dress, despite having very different body types across the board:) I do love the idea of letting your girls pick their own dress, especially if you are not paying for them. If your bridesmaids do not feel great in a dress, it will show in your pictures with their half-propped-cringe-grins. And ask how they feel about what you’re envisioning!
Post # 5
I don’t think they need to be overly matchy-matchy (ie not the same silhouette). But I’m not sure if you are getting the same vibe from those two different styles. Does that make sense? The tulle skirts and cream tops feels a little more rustic to me than your dress. It might be worth seeing if you can find something that has the same vibe as your dress and still matches the venue and lets the bridesmaids feel unique and special. I like that Lulu’s dress, fwiw.
Post # 6
I really like the second bridesmaid ensemble & I think it compliments your dress better than the first one.
I’m doing mismatched bridesmaid dresses as I wanted a “moonlit” color scheme and it’s not easy. Probably the hardest part of planning, lol!
Post # 7
I agree the bridesmaids don’t need to be overly matchy-matchy. I picked a color palette for them to follow and then let them pick the style that flattered them most. I like the look of the second Bridesmaid or Best Man option more. Really my only comment would be, is the building rainforest themed or is it actually the a rainforest habitat? If the latter I’d just make sure the skirts are breathable vs. feeling heavy and thick and I don’t know that I’d go with long sleeves.
Post # 8
I agree with a PP, bridemaids only need to roughly match the formality of the bride. Anything else is fair play!
I had an all lace dress and my BM’s were in different colours and styles. One had lace, a couple had chiffon and beading and all sorts of things, and it looked great.
The only other thing I’d be cautious about is their white tops clashing with your white dress if the colours are slightly different.
Post # 9
Love the sage green skirt. I’d be careful though, as a pp says, that their white/ivory tops don’t make your dress look too dark or offcolour. And the lacy top in the first skirt pic looks way too bridal to me .
I love the plain silk camisole top ( hard to wear though if you don’t have a slim body with upstanding breasts) Maybe the green skirted ones could wear a top in palest blue and the blue skirted ones wear a pale sage top?
Post # 10
I just told my bridesmaids to get burgundy floor-length gowns (from a couple different designers so the shades were the same) – I don’t care about silhouette.
Post # 11
That is completely personal I think.
Some people want it matchy matchy matchy in all sorts of ways.
Other people don’t care.
Also people might want it specifically NOT matchy matchy.
Personally, I did not care. When I went dress shopping my BFF found a dress she LOVED. I told her to get it, she asked what colour I said “I have no idea, you pick” (I had not come up with a color scheme yet lol). She said “it is your wedding, you pick” so I quickly just said “Gray or Purple” she opted for gray, which is how that became our main color lol.
Months later I took my niece dress shopping and told her to pick out ANY dress in the store as long as it was gray. Well, she ended up picking the same designer and color as my Maid of Honor but a different style. *shrugs*. whatever works for them, works for me. I just want them to be comfortable.