Post # 1
Just wanted to know what you brides are doing I know that it is traditional for you to buy your bridesmaids a gift which of course I want to do but I was wandering is it also expected for them to keep their dresses shoes etc.
Post # 3
Yes. Are you buying them for them? I’ve never heard of them not keeping them since they usually pay for them and have them altered to fit.
Post # 4
In my best friends wedding, she paid for all 4 of the bridesmaids dresses. This is not the norm though. If you can, and you want to, I’m sure your girls will appreciate it! Let them keep the dresses though, what would you do with them?
Post # 5
I thought the norm was to pay for their dresses for them??
Post # 6
It is not the norm in the US as far as I have heard. I have heard that it is the norm to pay for the bridesmaid dresses in the UK. If you so choose to pay for their things then they would keep them because they are a gift. What would you do with them if they didnt keep them? I too, have never heard of a bridesmaid NOT keeping her dress.
Post # 7
Yes, even if you pay for them they get to keep them… It’s like you are buying them a gift.
Just curious, what would you do with the dresses if you didn’t let them keep them?
Post # 8
I have been in 2 weddings and had to buy my Bridesmaid or Best Man dress for both weddings so I kept the dresses. In my wedding my BMs paid for their own dress too. I picked a common style and let them buy them used online!
Post # 9
I did not buy my girls their dresses, and I have always paid for my own in the weddings I’ve been in. But, I know of girls who have bought the dresses for their maids. It’s totally up to you and what you can afford.
Either way, though, I think it’s expected that the girls keep their dresses. I’ve kept mine and reworn all but one. Then, when I knew I was finished with them, I sold them to a consignment shop. I still have my two favorites that I wear to banquets and parties.
Post # 10
So the question is not really do they keep them but do they help pay? I am a UK bride.
Post # 11
Yeah, I don’t see why they would return shoes/dresses/accessories, etc to the bride after the wedding. It’s up to you whether you choose to any of their attire. You don’t have to, but if you’re asking for a lot of coordination, dress, shoes, and accessories, it would be nice to chip in or purchase one or more of those items. We’re buying the shoes for our wedding party so that they all match, but are letting them pick out and pay for their own clothing given certain color parameters.
Post # 12
I’ve donated my dress and shoes to an organization that provide prom dresses for young woman.