Do bridesmaids pay for their own dress?

posted 6 months ago in Money
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Depends where you live. In the UK it is normal for the bride to pay for the dresses, but in Canada and the US it’s most common for the bridesmaids to buy their own dress. 

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Yes I’m in the US and mine paid for theirs. That and I gave them a choice of paying to do hair and makeup but they didn’t have to (all of them did). But that’s really all I expected mine to pay for. I know some people expect to pay for bachelorette parties, bridal showers, etc.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I’m in the US and in my experience BMs usually pay for their own dress, hair, and make up (or do it themselves) unless the bride is exceptionally rich or has factored it in to the budget if someone else is paying. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

Culture is also a factor. The South and East Asian weddings I’ve attended/heard about the bride paid. I’m in Canada.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

If you do decide to have them pay for the dress, please ask their budget in private prior to any shopping. An individual message to each: ‘hey Jenny, we are going to be shopping for bm dresses soon and I wanted to reach out and see what price range you’re comfortable with. Let me know, thanks!’ Then, use the lowest quote as the max or offer to cover anything higher.

a lot of brides on here don’t seem to ask this simple question and are then flabbergasted and upset when their bms can’t afford the $300 dress they picked out. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I have had it both ways but typically in the US the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses I would find out what everyone budget is try to work around that. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

In the UK the bride pays. Though we also have the ‘she who says, pays’ rule. A bride can ask her BMs to pay for their dress but only if she gives them the free choice to get whatever they want (it’s ok to say the dress has to be a specific colour though) 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’m in the UK and I paid for my bridesmaids’ dresses. 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2019

In Aus it’s more common for bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses. I’m giving mine a colour range and some specifics on length, and they’ll be buying their own / wearing ones they already own 😊.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I’m in New Zealand & it’s split between bridesmaids paying for their dresses & brides paying. However brides always pay for hair and makeup for bridesmaids. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Where I’m from, southern USA, bridesmaids pay for their own dresses.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

natasha0b :  Most expect the bridesmaid to pay for their dress, hair, makeup and accessories. I’ve even looked up various etiquette guidelines online and they all agree. So you’re really doing them a great favor by helping. However, I cant stand it when brides take advantage of that etiquette guideline and then make them buy a $200 dress. Personal opinion here, if you want an expensive dress and your girls arent well off, then you should help or pick a cheaper dress. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Where do you live OP?

I am in Canada and bridesmaids are usually expected to pay for their own dresses (after being asked what their budget is). However, I have never heard of bridesmaids having to pay for their own hair and makeup outside of this website. In my opinion the bride should always cover that if she wants it done professionally, if I am ever told I need to pay for it myself I would refuse! So you are definitely doing the expected thing in my area by covering hair and makeup costs, I wouldn’t consider this to be a bonus or a nice gesture.

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