Do Bridesmaids Really Have to Match?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How much should bridesmaids match?

    Match EVERYTHING! (dress, hair, nails, shoes, jewelry, THE WORKS!)

    As long as the dress matches, that's all that matters!

    The dress and one other element should match (i.e. dress and jewelry, or dress and hair).

    Matching is not important.

  • Post # 16
    1272 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2019

    I’ve been in 4 weddings and only in one of them did all of us match (same dress, hairstyle, etc). In the 3 others, dresses, shoes, makeup, hair, and jewelry were all different.

    Post # 17
    229 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2020 - City, State


    The original reason for matching bridesmaids was to confuse evil spirits and kidnappers who might have it out for the bride… and yes, they were supposed to match the bride.

    If you’re not worried about evil ghosts, evil exes, or the spirits of vengeful ancestors, put your girls in whatever you want. Just make sure they’ll look good together in the photos.

    Post # 18
    2992 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2021

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    veej :  matching bridesmaids are going out of style. While many still do it, it has become far more common to have different dress styles, even colours. And I don’t recall matching hairstyles ever being a big thing. I mean, it would be weird if one had a very boho chic look and another was giving Audrey Hepburn vibes, but generally bridesmaids pick a hairstyle that suits them and is achievable with their hair type. It’s pretty rare to have 3-5 women all with the same length and texture, not to mention face shapes which impact how a style looks on an individual.

    In your case it would make absolutely no sense to try to make them look alike. They don’t and they never will. I think you will all be much happier and more comfortable going ahead with your plan to bring out their individuality in their looks instead of trying to standardise them. 

    Post # 19
    1736 posts
    Bumble bee

    No, they don’t all have to match and wear the same thing. I believe that not everyone looks the same in the same dress.  All of my girls wore black but different styles of dresses.  I said as long as it’s black, it’s all good. They all wore different black dresses that looked amazing on them.  They also chose their own jewelry, shoes, and hairstyles.  It all worked!

    Post # 20
    1092 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

    I bought 4 swatches from David’s Bridal and gave each of my bridesmaids a set. They can choose any dress from DB any length, as long as they are any of the four colors, and it doesn’t even have to be the same color. I think it’s most important that they are comfortable, and tbh, the same color does NOT look good on everybody. 

    Post # 21
    694 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I’m giving my bridesmaids a choice of 3 colours for a dress to go along with my colour scheme and the rest they can sort themselves. Hair make up jewellery shoes whatever, I don’t mind. I’d rather my bridesmaids be comfortable than match, I think a comfortable bridesmaid will result in better pictures than a matching set of bridesmaids. 

    Post # 22
    262 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: St. petersburg, FL

    No! I am having my bridesmaids in different shades of beachy blues. I asked them all to have long dresses made of a chiffon type material, but other than that they can pick what they’d like. They are free to choose accessories, hair/makeup, shoes (or no shoes… we’re getting married on a beach so shoes are optional!) etc.

    I am planning on making them necklaces to tie our theme together, but they don’t have to wear that if they don’t want to. A little individuality makes sure that everyone is their most comfortable.

    Post # 23
    5 posts

    I love the mix match look. I am aksing my girls to wear the same shade of a color, floor length and thats it. I hate to make people purchase a dress that 1. they don’t feel comfortable in and 2. spend money they wouldnt want to spend. 


    So a lot of freedom, but I like them all to look different, comfortable and happy. 

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