Do bridesmaids really need a bouquet?

posted 8 months ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

I think it’s nice to have something to hold so you have something to do with your hands but I guess the groomsmen figure it out!  

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Groomesmen usually come in from the side somewhere and enter all at once  (in every wedding I’ve been to anyway). I’d feel so awkward walking down an aisle alone with nothing to do with my hands. You don’t have to do full bouquets. Ive seen bridesmaids with a single flower and ribbons wrapped around them.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

Of course you don’t *have* to have them. I’ve seen lots of alternatives – umbrellas/parasols, lanterns, chinese style fans, books. Someone on here (or maybe it was a diff wedding site) was in a wedding where they carried teddy bears. Usually they have something to hold, but it doesnt have to be flowers, and if you super dont want them to carry anything I’m sure everyone could figure it out lol. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

amber176 :  Mississippi. I’ve always seen the girls walk in by themselves, but they are paired up with a groomsmen to walk out.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn

amber176 :  I live in Missouri and I’ve seen it done both ways here. In fact, I think my groom and his groomsmen will walk in together, my girls by themselves, and then they’ll walk out in pairs after the ceremony  

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Where I’m from (Canada) I’ve only ever seen the whole party walk single file, parents, then groomsmen, then bridesmaids, then bride (possibly escorted by her father). I agree that it’s less anxiety provoking to have something to hold on to, and helps prevent fidgeting during the ceremony. I had a friend who had like 10 birds and each of the wedding party carried one in, so it definitely doesn’t have to be flowers!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

TX and I’ve seen it both ways. Actually was in a wedding in Wisconsin where they did it the other way than you’re used to but it’s possible that was mostly because the wedding party was pretty lopsided (way more guys than girls). For our wedding we did guys first, bridesmaids processing alone, then they processed out together. I kinda felt like it was symbolic in some way- like before the ceremony the guys and girls are separate but then after the bride and groom are formally joined they’re together? Or something like that??

I would give them something to hold onto. Guys have their pockets, not so much for girls (unless you got bridesmaids dresses with pockets!)

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I love the look of the bouquets, but I don’t think girls have to carry anything.

I do think it looks strange when they carry something other than flowers, such as lanterns, books etc.  I would rather nothing, than a strange prop. 

If it’s cost you are worried about, my friend had beautiful small bouquets of babies breath with a couple of little flowers in them, and they were super cheap.  Probably cheaper than anything else you could buy. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I didn’t have a bouquet but my bridesmaids did. They walked down the aisle alone and I think it looks awkward not to carry anything. Plus I wanted the pop of colour. I made my own bouquets the day before though. They were simple bouquets of red roses. I had the flowers delivered from an online wholesaler a couple of days before the wedding. Nobody even noticed I didn’t have a bouquet though because I walked down the aisle with my dad. I think if you have the bridesmaid and groomsmen walking together it would be fine to just skip them. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

amber176 :  I’m originally from Wisconsin too, and even though I’ve seen it both ways it’s WAY more common for groomsmen to walk with the bridesmaids. I am not doing a traditional wedding with bridesmaids, but when I was considering it, I was going to have them walk the aisle with beautiful fans with ribbons tied at the ends. Fans come in all kinds of colors and it would be an interesting keepsake for your bridesmaids – and if you are getting married in summer it’s an extra benefit! 😉

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