(Closed) Do Bridesmaids/Bridal Parties usually help pay for wedding vendors?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle

 

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BreezyBride24:  Id say in response a very happy.. Id love to help pay for the photobooth as my wedding present to you! look happy and excited because now you dont have to get her a present and she knows this is what she is getting! 🙂 hell id be super happy if my BMs did that for me..

Post # 62
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Worker bee

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BreezyBride24:  Definitely agree with that 100%!  Do what your little heart desiresssssss…or gut…either way….do what works for you. lol

Post # 63
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

honestly part of me hopes this bride knows about this “surprise” and it’s not something best man and Maid/Matron of Honor concocted on their own.  

Because if this really is something she didn’t know, she may be humiliated and upset on her wedding to learn what you were asked to contribute.  I am so embarrassed for her.

Unlike most people I don’t think this is necessarily a terrible idea to ask that you join in and give her a photobooth…but again, not everyone gives gifts for weddings so to say ANYTHING about giving another gift in addition is so incredibly rude I don’t even know what to say.  

 

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BreezyBride24:  I am actually curious as to whether you had a photobooth at your beautiful wedding (I loved your pictures!  and we were date twins).  is this something she thought of recently and decided to add outside of budget?  

Post # 65
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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BreezyBride24:  I would say that’s pretty shitty but made less shitty knowing the bride didn’t ask. Maybe it is meant to be a group gift?

Anyway, if I contributed (as you) I would just give thme a card at the wedding. Or not contribute.

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think it’s super shitty of the Maid/Matron of Honor and I feel terrible for the bride if she didn’t really know.  Most people will assume she approved this, which makes it worse.  Hopefully she never finds out what her sister has been saying/doing in private.

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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BreezyBride24:  Um whaaaaaat? No. That is NOT your responsibility. If they can’t afford to have something that is not even necessary, they don’t have it – plain and simple.

Post # 70
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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BreezyBride24:  No, that is not a requirement. I am being very cautious with what I am making my BM’s pay for. I went the cheapest route with dresses and shoes (only $65) and they are STILL giving me a hard time. Their hair and makeup is upto them, whether they want to do it themselves or professionally) My sister however, my Maid/Matron of Honor is going above and beyond helping, sponsored $100 for wedding costs and doing things like planning my shower and doing bouquets on her own, which is awesome, but I would never expect anyone to pay. I mean sure you can ask for sponsors to help, but even then, I tried to avoid asking people who were already helping with my wedding or in my wedding party to help with anything. And the only thing I did ask help with was the hall (which is a norm in my family, we all help eachother with things like that – Hispanic culture). Personally, I think it’s a bit rude to expect someone to pay for that, sounds like she is going over the top and that it a little extreme what she is already requiring prior to the vendor costs. I would definitely mention something to her about it, you can do it in a constructive, polite way, but be firm. 

Post # 71
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Helper bee

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polyblonde:  +1

 

That is incredibly tacky. I would never, ever, ever dream of asking anyone in my party to pay for vendors. I wouldnt even dream of asking them to pay for their hair and makeup.

Post # 74
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Buzzing bee

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