Post # 1
So, my boy and I aren’t officially engaged yet, but we’ve been making tentative plans. Last night we were talking about who we would want for attendants. I have 2 full brothers, 1 half brother, and 1 step-brother. My boy has 1 sister. Anyways, he said he would want his two best friends and the younger of my two brothers as attendants. He only knows my brothers through me and doesn’t see them often because we live out of state, but he gets along a lot better with the younger one and has spent more time with him. Would that be weird or unfair to have one of my full brothers as a groomsman, but not the other? I’m ok with making my half brother and step brothers ushers or something else, or just having them be guests, but I don’t know how I feel about treating my two full brothers differently.
Post # 3
If you want both of your brothers in your wedding, then tell your bf that you want both of them. My brother is in my wedding and even if my Fiance didn’t know him that well, he would still be in it. He’s in it because I want him in it. If you didn’t know his sister that well would he still want her in it?
Post # 5
i think it needs to be up to your boyfriend. Im having my sisters and he is having his brother but i would never have demanded he have my brother (if i had one) and he doesnt mind that his sister is not included. Your bridesmaids you pick because they are people you can lean on, people who will support your in your marriage, who will be there when you need them and will walk with you through the good and bad. I feel it is the same for groomsmen. It needs to be a personal and individual decision.
But thats just my thoughts! 😀 Everyone feels differently! 😀
Post # 6
I am dealing with a similar situation. I have two younger brothers, one 18 and one 15. I am struggling because I would like the older of the two to be a groomsmen. But I feel if I ask one, I would have to ask the other. My fiance says to make the younger one an usher but I feel like feelings would be hurt. What to do??
Post # 7
The guy gets to pick his side, the girl gets to pick hers.
Post # 8
Update- I told my fiance that picking groomsmen was all him, and he could do whatever he wants, BUT it would mean a lot to me if he used both of my brothers. Of course, because he’s a sweet, thoughtful, considerate guy, he is asking both of them.