Post # 1
I’m new here, but I have a question and I guess I wanted some opinions. I’ve only asked a few friends, but I’d like some other answers from the bees! 🙂
My boyfriend is divorced. Some say that divorced men move toward marriage faster, others say slower because of the last marriage…
I know it can’t be generalized because it all depends on the guy. Everyone is different.
Here’s my situation though: He asked her to marry him because they had a child together. They were only married for about 3 months before she decided to go be a stripper!!! Anyways. He’s told me that he only proposed to keep the family together because he wanted his daughter to have a stable family since he didn’t growing up.
When he and I talk now, he always makes references to the future, and he says that I’m so good to him and good for him. The other day he fell asleep on me and commented that he was glad that I don’t get mad at him for things like that. I asked him why would I? And he said, “I guess it’s just past relationships where that has happened.”
His daughter is 2 and we get along really well. I guess what I’m wondering is do you think if a guy has been married before, that he will move faster towards a second marriage? And when there is a kid in the picture, how much does that affect things? Especially with her age?
Post # 3
I have a friend that was in a similar situation. They dated and moved in at 8 months and got engaged at 10 months! It seemed to go quickly for her. His daughter is also around 2 years old. They have not yet set a date but are very cute and happily in love, I’m happy to see her so happy. 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 4
My boyfriend has been divorced from his wife for over 3 years. They were together 6 years and married I think about one of those. They do have a 5 year old son together… He was actually thinking of getting back with her before he met me (just because he wanted to see his son more… He lives 5 hours away from him.) I would say that depending on the situation it could go faster. He may realize how good he has it with you, and may not want to waste any time. 🙂
Just some information on my experience: We moved in together after 10 months, and we will be together 2 years this month (and I know he has a ring hidden somewhere!) That’s awesome that you get along with his child! I love his son so much (although he can be a handful sometimes haha).
Post # 5
A friend on mine was dating a divorced guy. They moved in after about 6 months and were engaged at like 10 months. They are now three years married!
Post # 6
I think you’re onto something.
Found this quote from the below link on “Why Men Marry Some Women And Not Others”: “A 40+ man who has been married before is more likely to remarry than an equivalent bachelor is to marry.”
It is not echoing what you said exactly, but I think is is close! I definitely think there is also truth to the statement: “A man who has been married before is likely to move toward marriage faster than an equivalent bachelor.” (quoting myself here)
Post # 7
Thank you ladies!
I’m waiting, but not getting ants in my pants quite yet! lol
It’s good to know that it went pretty quickly for your friends though. 🙂
@Reign14, thanks for that link, I’ve heard of that book before too.