(Closed) Do electronics equal jewelry? Am I selfish?

posted 6 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: Does jewelry equal electronics?
    Yes, what is fair is fair. : (44 votes)
    85 %
    No, I've done so much for him I deserve this! : (3 votes)
    6 %
    Can't decide, depends on the year... : (3 votes)
    6 %
    Other, explain. : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    yes I see them as essentially the same thing.  TVs to men = diamonds to women! At least in our family!

    Post # 4
    14660 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    No, cause that brand new latest TV will be half the price next year and ancient in 3-4 years.  My basic staple nice jewelery (and handbags) will be timeless for decades to come.

    Post # 5
    732 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    The 3d tv is probably the same price as your earings, im not saying go get him the tv but maybe get him a new smart phone or the laptop you guys need. If I knew my Fiance was getting me earings like that id try to match it somehow

    Post # 6
    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Yeah, I don’t think it’s fair for you to get all the jewelry you want and for him not to get the electronics he wants, because jewelry is just as expensive (often times more so) than what he is asking for. And you don’t “need” either of them, so I don’t think it’s fair to make it seem like your wants are more important than his.

    Post # 7
    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I would feel pretty selfish if I were getting even the occasional high-dollar gift while Darling Husband got no gifts.  I think it’s got to be balanced. And I think it really doesn’t matter what the gift is— doesn’t make a difference if you like jewelry or spa treatments or concert tickets and he likes electronics or event tickets or golf clubs. It’s got to be balanced.

    @pinkshoes:  why should the resale value of a gift item be a factor? The fact remains that the OP wants diamond earrings as a gift, so they’re not being bought as an investment. Her Fi should be able to enjoy a gift of similar value too, regardless of how much it will cost in two years or what it can be sold for.

    Post # 8
    9887 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @pinkshoes:    I like the way you think, lol.  😉

    Seriously, though, I voted “Yes, what’s fair is fair.”  Why can’t you both get what you want?

    Post # 9
    1357 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    A gift is a gift and Darling Husband and I try to spend around the same amount on each other, regardless of what the gift is. 

    Post # 10
    14660 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @fishbone:  She wont need new diamond earrings ever again once it’s bought.  But he maybe “need” the latest and greatest big screen TV every 4 years.  She can use those same earrings down the road in 20 years, he certainly wont be watching that same TV.  So in terms of whether or not he should get his latest gadget would never “even out”, unless she constantly gets nice new pieces of jewelery all the time whenever he wants to upgrade some electronic.

    If you want to just look at a dollar amount of a gift and call it even, then a very basic level it’s the same.  But my husband and I look at the bigger picture of how these two items would effect us as a unit to determine if the gift, even though its for one person, meets the needs of us as a couple.   This would my our thought process.  Would my jewelery directly bring him enjoyment?  No, but he’ll know I won’t be splurging on something like that again for a LONG time.  Is his 47″ dated enough to warrent a 60″?  What would the two of us do with 2 big screen tvs?  It sounds like it could be a quite unecessary, so no, he could wait on the TV.   By the logic of just going on equal cost, what if he wanted a new TV every year, and let just say it cost the same as what he is buying you…the cost is the same, but that just wouldnt make sense.

    Post # 11
    1830 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Buy him what he wants, he is buying you want you want, as long as it falls around the same price range.

    Post # 12
    1718 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I voted, “Yes, what’s fair is fair.”  I don’t think you’re selfish at all!

    Darling Husband has been dying to get me the Kindle Fire when my Nook Color dies but it hasn’t died!  lol He is always into the techy gifts even after he asked me what I wanted for Christmas which was another stacker for my wedding bands. 

    We’re not concerned with the dollar amount on the gift because in the end, it always balances out.  If I get something big for Christmas, might mean I might get something small for my birthday or Valentine’s day.

    Update: After reading other posts, maybe I’m reading your question wrong?  Does this mean your Darling Husband will not get a gift?

    Post # 13
    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Why don’t you guys split the Christmas budget so you each can get something you want? I might have read your post wrong, but it sounds like you are getting earrings for Christmas and Fiance is getting nothing?


    Post # 15
    8600 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I say let him get the TV. I was in pretty much the same situation, Darling Husband wanted a 60″ 3D TV even though we already had a nice 47″. Since I was buying a lot of stuff to redecorate the house that we didn’t really “need,” I caved and let him buy the TV. Honestly I’m glad I did, I enjoy it too and at least he can’t complain anymore! haha

    Post # 16
    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @O.My.Heart:  Um, I’m on the men’s side of this equation. 😀 But, yeah. If you want (and have asked for) fancy pants, completely decorative jewelry, why shouldn’t he be able to get nice quality, completely useful, electronics?

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