(Closed) Do engaged girls participate in the bouquet toss?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Who participates in the bouquet toss?

    Single ladies only!

    Single ladies and ladies in relationships

    Single ladies, ladies in relationships, and engaged ladies

    Other

  • Post # 32
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted for single and in relationships.

    When I was engaged, I went to a wedding and didn’t participate in the toss. I already knew I was gettting married…

    Post # 33
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    why not?  It’s no sillier than my 12 year old cousin who caught the bouquet. 

    Post # 34
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’ve seen tons of engaged ladies participate (and men in the garter) but I never understood it.

    Post # 35
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    opps i screwed up my vote. Its for anyone not engaged or married. 

    Post # 36
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    Like other PP I thought the purpose of the bouquet toss was to “find out who will be the next to get married”.  It’s only a superstition though, so I don’t think I’d be upset if someone who was married/engaged wanted to participate.  At our wedding I’m encouraging married women to participate, but that’s only because we’re having a really small wedding (25 total including me and FI) so there would only be 3 people trying to catch the bouquet if it was no married women (and they’re ages 9, 14, and 26 so only one would be marrying age lol), however I wouldn’t make this exception if we were having a bigger wedding.  Hope that all makes sense and isn’t too confusing.  lol

    Post # 37
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    When I was in the “Waiting” stage, I was SO MAD when engaged girls went onto the floor for the bouquet toss. It’s to find out who is next. Engaged girls already know they’re “next.”

    Sorry. Hot button issue for me.

    Post # 38
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I always thought it was the ladies that weren’t engaged or married.. but the last wedding I went to, the bouquet got snatched out of my hand by the Bride’s SIL that was engaged. Since I was still ‘waiting’ at the time, I was pretty peeved. The garter was caught by a single guy but he ended up giving it to her SIL’s fiance. Kind of defeats the purpose of who’s next to get married/engaged…

    Post # 39
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Why would you go up if you’re engaged? Marriage is tangibly on your horizon! The bouquet “determines” who will get married next. How silly would it be for two girls to duke it out for the bouquet if one has set her date for September and one for October. I think I can tell you who will get married first! 

    Absolutely for girls in serious relationships, new relationships, single girls… I caught the bouquet when we had been together 3.5 years and Fiance was proposing in 2 months and I was the only one who knew it was coming. We were ruthless in catching the bouquet and garter! Another girl who was 1 year into a relationship and desperate to get engaged was so aggressive for it. 

    I have NEVER seen an engaged girl on the floor. 

    Post # 40
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @moniquaa:  What I am doing at my wedding may interest you. My DJ actually suggested it and it sounded fun. We are tying a fifty dollar bill to the boquet and then calling all the woman no matter married, single, engaged etc to come and catch the boquet. You could of course put a $20 or even a $10…but we figured it would spruce things up a bit and make things a little more fun and itneresting.

    Post # 41
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

     i am having the DJ say any ladies who are not married- I know this will get my grandma out there ( EE *hides face*) but it will also ge my beautiful 30 year old aunt who has been dating her stupid ass 27 year old boyfriend for like 6 years now and they should just tie the knot already! So I hope she catches it and it really does bring her marriage! lol! So I’m saying unmarried instead of single cause thats what Iwant!

    Post # 42
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My brother got married 2 weeks ago and I went up there for the bouquet toss.  At first, I didn’t think anything of it.  The bouquet toss is for anyone who is not married and as far as I understand it, engaged people are not married.  That being said, after I got up there, I felt a little silly about the whole thing and really didn’t try to catch it at all.  Especially after seeing how enthuastic the girl who caught it was.

    So as an engaged person who already knows their time is coming, I’d feel bad for taking that enthusiasm away from someone else.  However, I really don’t think there’s anything wrong with going up for a bouquet toss if you wanted to…technically, you should get it anyways since you’re the one that’s “next.”

    Post # 43
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I say unmarried and not engaged.

    Post # 44
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Single ladies only!

    Post # 45
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Psh if I was single or waiting and some engaged girl caught the bouquet I’d  be like “SHE ALREADY KNOWS SHE’S NEXT! NO FAIR!” lol.

    So I vote single and in a relationship, NOT engaged

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