Post # 1
Do Fiance and I pay for our bridal party’s hotel rooms the night of the wedding?! I am already struggling with what to pay for as far as the bridal party goes (especially bridesmaids.. do I pay for hair and makeup? Nails? Shoes? AHH!) and we aren’t requiring the bridal party to spend the night in the hotel, they could easily drive home if they wanted/if they were sober. One last thing to mention is the reception ends at 11pm. Fiance and I are going to have a hotel party after the reception, and we wanted the bridal party and friends to attend. Does this mean we have to pay for their rooms?
What are you bees doing?! Are your bridal parties staying in a hotel with you guys that evening? Any advice/suggestions would be appreciated! 🙂
Post # 3
If they are within cabbing distance, I wouldn’t feel obligated to pay for their rooms. Personally, I prefer to fall asleep in my own bed over a hotel if I was attending a function in the city where I live. I would rather spend $40 on a cab, than sleep in a hotel room.
Post # 4
Most American brides do not pay for the bridal parties’ hotel rooms, shoes, dress, or hair/makeup (unless the makeup/hair is required by the bride). They probably want to attend the afterparty, but I wouldn’t “require” it of them in any event (if someone doesn’t want to be there, why force it?!).
Post # 5
@starz88962: It is nice to offer, but isn’t required.
Post # 6
We are not paying for anyone to travel or stay in a hotel. If you cannot afford to attend the wedding, we understand.
I traveled to MANY weddings and paid for airfare, hotel, rental car. All depends on the friendship and my economic means at the time. I never expected someone else to pay for these costs.
That being said, I have one friend who has been out of work for years so am working with her to find her lodging with a friend.
Post # 7
@starz88962: My bridal party (1 Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 BM) is in charge of paying for their flight here, but that is their only expense. I didn’t make them get a dress, shoes, hair, make-up, jewelry, etc. They are staying with me in our guest rooms. If I didn’t have a place for them to stay, I would probably pay for their hotel rooms. If they were local, I wouldn’t worry about it.
Post # 8
You are too kind! I voted, “no, they should pay.” I have been a bridesmaid in a number of weddings and if I wanted a hotel room for the night, it was understood that it was my responsibility to pay for one. I think that is pretty standard to have attendants pay for their own hotel room, even if you are planning to have a hotel party. For our wedding, we are setting up a hotel block with a hotel that provides a shuttle service and including an “accommodations” card with our wedding invitation. The only situation where I would think that the bride and groom offer to pay for hotel rooms is when it comes to destination weddings.
As for your other questions regarding what to pay for your maids, I would think that your maids should know that they are responsible for buying their own dress, shoes, etc. If you are planning to have everyone go to the same salon, then you should discuss pricing of hair, makeup, nails with your salon and let the ladies know in advance how much it would cost them if they chose to get those things done. If you REALLY feel that you want to pay for something to help the maids out, then you could always give them a gift certificate to use at the salon as part of their Bridesmaid or Best Man gift.
Good luck and happy planning! 🙂
Post # 9
I don’t think you should HAVE to pay for their rooms! If it’s in your budget it would be a very nice gesture! But you don’t HAVE to!
Post # 10
American bridess do not pay for hair, nails, shoes, hotel room unless they require it. If BMs are free to go home, its on them.
Post # 11
@starz88962: I’m torn on this too. I’m getting married in another state about 4 hours away from where we all live. I was considering paying for the girls hotel rooms the night of the rehersal dinner (thursday) if they are coming without their SOs.. like getting a big suite so that me & maybe all the girls can stay together the night before the wedding. Then the night of the wedding, they are all responsible for their own rooms.. We’ll see though, it can get expensive.
Post # 12
nope not at all unless you guys plan on making the hotel room their bridal party gifts than I would say yes.
Post # 13
no i dont think you have to pay. we didn’t pay for our bridal partys’ rooms. when they accepted being in the bridal party they knew it would be out of town, so they knew what they were getting into.
Post # 14
You do not need to pay for their hotel room, especially if you aren’t requiring them to stay at a specific hotel.
In regards to hair and makeup and nails – you must pay if you requre them to get it done professionally. If they have the option to do their own beautifying, then give them the choice and they can pay or not pay.