Post # 1
Okay, this weekend, we had a great weekend. It was the first time in a long time I can remember that things were much as they were in the beginning of the relationship – “young and carefree”. We went out, we had a good time, we were in an environment where he was so proud to proclaim at every turn, “Yup – that’s my girlfriend.” It was too sweet.
So what did I do when I got home last night? I silently cried myself to sleep. Why? Because, while it was so wonderful to hear him declare his love for me, every time he said, “Yup – that’s my girlfriend,” it was like a little knife to the heart. Yes, I’m the girlfriend – not the fiancee or the wife to be. I’m JUST the girlfriend.
Does this happen to anyone else? Do the REALLY good days where you just cherish your SO so much make the realization that you are JUST the girlfriend harder to bear?
ETA: And those of you who have been following my plight will be VERY proud to hear that I kept this to myself and didn’t turn it into another “discussion/argument”. It was tough, but I feel pleased with my decision this morning.
Post # 3
Definitely. We bought an apartment together and a new puppy and when I mentioned getting married he told me that I should just be happy with what I have and stop trying to move quickly (It’s not quick it has been 7 1/2 years!!) I can’t even tell my grandparents that I have bought a house because they are VERY religious and wrote off one of my cousins when they found out she was pregnant before getting married. So as much as I love our life together it is time to be husband and wife and the fact that we are not makes me really sad sometimes.
Post # 4
Yes- all the time when we were living together—- we were doing much more than boyfriend/girlfriends do- we basically had a family so hearing the girlfriend word just was like a dagger. *hugs*
Post # 5
I used to hate being called “the girlfirend” it felt like I wasnt important when he introduced me because that is what I felt like being “just the girlfreind” now we are engaged and it makes it quite a bit better being call his fiancee rather then his girlfriend. It will happen for you soon enough and good for you for not turning it into another discussion or arguement that takes a lot of self control, I know it happened with me where I wish I just could have kept my mouth shut. Good luck hun