(Closed) Do guests KNOW to bring gifts to the shower?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Every guest at my first shower brought a gift, including the younger ones.  FI’s family threw the shower, and they enclosed our registry card from Macy’s.  Granted, a few gifts weren’t from Macy’s, but still.  I would have been embarrased too! LOL, luckily, my first wedding shower as a guest was last year so I was already engaged!

Post # 4
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I definitely don’t remember my first bridal shower, so can’t help you out there, but  I think it’s pretty routine to include registry info on the shower invitations.  Sometimes bridal showers are themed (ie…kitchen shower or wine shower or lingere shower) which would certainly help make it more clear.

But honestly, most people will know.  And if someone DOESN’T know, just be gracious and all will be well.


Post # 5
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

My registry information was printed right on the bridal shower invitation – it said “Clare is registered at _____, _____ and ______” I didnt have anyone not bring a gift. It’s called a “shower” because you are showering the bride to be with gifts. I have always known that the point of a bridal shower is to get or give gifts!

Post # 6
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

the shower invitation is the only invitation where it’s okay to include your registry info…the point is to be “showered” with gifts.

Post # 7
5778 posts
Bee Keeper

I find it interesting that if one doesn’t know what is ‘expected’ at a shower, or what normally happens at a shower, that they wouldn’t ask somebody. Your Mom? A close friend? A co-worker? What do people think showers are? Small pre-wedding parties? I’m not trying to be funny. I honestly don’t understand how people don’t know these things, and if they don’t, they don’t try and find out before embarrassing themselves. If I was walking into one and saw everyone else with a gift in their hand, I’d turn around and leave before going in empty-handed.

I was in my first wedding when I was 10 and attended all the showers and parties. My Mom got the gifts from us, but I still knew they were expected because she told us. I’ve never been to one where someone didn’t bring a gift.

Post # 9
4485 posts
Honey bee

Most people do because a shower is a gift-giving party.

Post # 10
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I chose not to have a shower because it’s for the very reason of asking people to buy you yet another gift.  I go to all wedding invites and bring gifts and only close friends’ engagements with gifts. 

Beyond that I personally dislike having to attend extra occasions such as a bridal shower. 

Post # 11
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I knew to give a gift but one of my maids had no idea.  She isn’t really that young (29) but she is from a different culture and really didn’t get the bridal shower thing.  She didn’t ask because she assumed it was like a bachelorette party.  She ended up asking me the day before the shower and she was so happy that I told her.  I wasn’t asking for a gift at all.  I even had my registry info printed on the invite and she said it confused her and she didn’t get why it was on there.   However, she was happy because she said she would have been humilated to show up with no gift…..heck I even had two guys that are my close friends come and they brought a gift and I can tell you it was the only shower they had gone to. 

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