(Closed) Do guests of the groom feel less “significant”?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Groom Guest: Less significant?
    yes : (8 votes)
    17 %
    no : (38 votes)
    83 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I get so excited when any of my male cousins or friends get married.  I’m like so proud and saying “Oh look how handsome” the whole time!  One of my fave parts of any ceremony is watching the groom when the bride is coming down the aisle, because that’s when the true emotions show.  Ah, I love weddings. 🙂

    Post # 4
    Member
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    i think i’m more excited if i’m close to the person, whether it’s the bride or groom, it doesn’t make a difference.

    Post # 5
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    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I don’t think so.  Although, I was invited to a wedding by the groom (the bride didn’t know he had invited me and my friend) and boy, did I get some nasty looks from her and her mom!  Haha.  It seems kind of mean, but I went to the wedding to enjoy the spectacle and drink free booze.  Now I feel a little guilty because me and my girlfriends monopolized the dance floor all night…. ooops.

    Post # 6
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    408 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    lol…I think the family/friends of the bride feel more of a “part” of the wedding because 9 times out of 10 the bride has shared a great deal of the details and planning process with them. Often time when family/friends of the groom ask simple questions such as “hey, what are the colors or theme”, they don’t know…lol.

    I do understand what you mean. I’ve tried since day one to include Future Mother-In-Law and his grandmothers in the whole planning process to that they feel significant….and because most women love weddings and they have no daughters so they are thrilled to hear all about it!

    Post # 7
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    2208 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Hmmm…interesting question. I think I experience a wedding differently as a guest of the groom, but not in a bad way. When it is a girlfriend getting married, I am a bit more invested in the the way everything looks, and in the girly joy of it all. As a guest of the groom, I tend to be more laid back and have just a smidge more fun. But I also haven’t been to a wedding where I only knew the groom AND wasn’t a family member. Or, I’ve never been to a male friend’s wedding and not known the bride at least on a friendly level.

    Post # 9
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    1336 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I can see what you’re saying.  I think it all depends on how close you are to the groom and his bride.  2 yrs. ago my cousin got married and although we grew up close, we haven’t been as close recently so I had not seen or his met his fiance.  I was super excited for him, but can’t say the same for the bride since I hadn’t known her yet.  On the other hand, another guy cousin of mine is getting married this summer, and since I’ve known his fiancee for some time now, I’m super excited for both. 

    Post # 10
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Nope, it just matters how close I am to the person getting married!

    Post # 11
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    2859 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

    I’ve never considered that, and I don’t think that I’ve ever felt that way.

    Post # 12
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    2408 posts
    Buzzing bee

    i get excited either way. one of my closest guy friends is getting married later this year and i cannot wait!

    Post # 13
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    2397 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I haven’t been to a ton of weddings, but the last two I was at, I was a guest of the groom.  I don’t feel any different versus being a guest of the bride.  I also enjoy myself more if I’m actually friends with the bride or groom!

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