(Closed) Do guests REALLY look at all the small details we put into our weddings?

posted 10 years ago in Decor
  • poll: Do guests REALLY look at all the small details we put into our weddings? Do YOU?

    No way!! I never notice the tiny details.

    Yes, I notice every little detail

    I just want to drink and eat..lol

    Other..Explain below

  • Post # 32
    457 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Perhaps people who are in the midst of planning their own wedding or who have recently planned their own wedding will look at the details, but I never really do. At all. Even when I was engaged, damned if I can remember what the flowers looked like at any wedding I went to, what the cake looked like, what the color scheme was, what the favors even were. What I DO remember is if the music was good and if I had fun. And I also remember if there was an element of the wedding that made things difficult for me as a guest (i.e., if I had to stand around hungry, if there was a long distance between ceremony and reception, if it was difficult/expensive to travel to the wedding site and required renting a car).

    I skimped out on details at my wedding (no flowers, no centerpieces, everything simple), and I am infinitely happy that I did.

    Post # 33
    202 posts
    Helper bee

    Remember you’re using the Bee to ask this question! If you asked the general public I think the overwhelming consensus would be NO!

    There is a huge difference between a over done and bland wedding. Find a few great ways to personalize your wedding, and make them big! We added a photo booth (for free, it was a DIY one), had a pre-ceremony cocktail hour and included 5 hours of dancing. These were all very easy, cheap decisions that made our wedding ours. As many of the girls said above, people remember having a great time. This past Christmas dinner my family talked about the drinks, food & dancing and laughed over the funny photo booth pictures. No one ever mentioned the program or tissue packets!

    While details can be gorgeous and brides-to-be are obsessed with judging other’s weddings – your guests will be there to celebrate your marriage. (And if they’re there for the details, maybe you could reconsider having them there. Who wants to pay $100 a plate for someone who is going to sit and judge you the entire time?)

    Post # 34
    794 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I keep worrying about this all the time.  I am doing everything myself.  This feeling of doom recently struck me as I was wrapping favor boxes and making sure that there was no seam to be seen.  Will anyone notice?  Probably not but I know I would notice.  Then again I am a very detail oriented person.  So I think some will notice most will not.

    Post # 35
    1920 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I’ve always loved weddings and I look at every last detail. I’ve been taking mental wedding notes since I was five.

    Post # 36
    322 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

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    @princessbelle:  This is my 2nd wedding, and I did everything myself in my first, and I am also very detail oriented, so I totally understand where you’re coming from.  For the most part, most will not notice all the little the details.  They look at the wedding as whole.  Your guests are there to support you and your husband being joined together… and then to party.  The only things that people talk about after a wedding will be the food, drinks, and if they had a good time.  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 37
    461 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Probably not, but it’s what I love obsessing over ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 38
    687 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think your view of wedding details changes after you’ve planned one of your own!! ๐Ÿ™‚ Now I am very keen on the details but before we were engaged I was more of an “overall” girl.

    Post # 39
    2870 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    Most probably do, if they remember that is a completely different story.


    Post # 40
    2828 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I usually notice the centerpieces, what the Wedding Party is wearing, and the bouquets.. but my attention span usually stops there, unless there is something really neat/interesting, but let’s face it, most of the weddings I have attended IRL have nothing on what you see online ๐Ÿ˜› I am sure if I went to a wedding with some quirky signage or something I would notice that.

    Even though I am more “aware” of the details now that I am planning, I still don’t plan on having an overwhelming amount at our wedding/reception simply because I know they won’t be noticed/appreciated/remembered etc.

    Post # 41
    7367 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Technically I would notice only because I plan events and now that I’m planning my own I can’t help it. BUT typically its the overall feel and sentiment that wins me over combined with great food, music and drinks (in that order). And I do adore FLOWERS. However, I could care less about your matching fonts, colors, rhinestones etc because I’m not there for that. Now for mine I have a certain aesthetics that I’d like to achieve but I don’t plan on going overboard.

    Post # 42
    1066 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think you will only notice if you’re involved in weddings at that time in your life… otherwise, it’s all about the food and entertainment.

    Overall, i would remember if it was a nice wedding or not, but not specific details.

    Post # 43
    7294 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    i don’t think poll could be placed on a more biased forum!!!  that 40 something percent that said “yes”, i would like to see that matched in the general public!

    i voted yes because i love weddings, always have, but now that i have a wedding coming up….i think i am forever changed and all future weddings i attend, i will be scrutinizing and noticing EVERY detail! (more so than i did before)

    Post # 44
    3 posts
    • Wedding: October 2010

    My husband and I have gone to many weddings this year.  I noticed a lot of details out of respect to the bride (I was in the planning process, and I wanted to appreciate every effort put forth).  But my husband and I don’t really remember the details. We do, however, remember if the couple and/or their families personally welcomed us.  Our favorite wedding did not have a lot of decor or flare.  Instead, the kindness of the couple (and their families) were wonderful.

    Do guests notice the details such as decor or place settings?  Hmmmm….They probably notice them at some point, and some people will notice them more than others. However, guests will remember the sentiment, emotionality and hospitality way more :).

    Post # 45
    353 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I think people notice a lot the day of but it’s all quickly forgotten.  Several guests commented at our wedding about the flowers, chairs, decor, etc. and then within a couple of weeks completely forgot what they had said.  A friend that got married not long after us came up to me and specifically commented on several things she liked, i.e. chairs, and then a few weeks later called me to remind her what kind of chairs we used!  As long as everybody has a good time, nobody remembers the details!

    Post # 46
    645 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I tend to notice if I don’t like something, but otherwise I only remember if I had a good time at the wedding.

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