Post # 1
For my DIY farm wedding, the venue has a bunch of stuff that other weddings have left behind… I plan on using their mason jars and other vases. I’m concerned that guests might take home the flowers, then I’m stuck paying for vases that belong to the venue. Is it still customary for guests to walk away with the flowers?
Post # 3
@NYCowgirl: maybe place a note at the table that says, “you are welcome to take the flowers but the vases belong to [venue name]. Please utilize the plastic wrap available on your way out.”
Something like that would probably work.
Post # 4
I think it’s up to you. Normally the DJ announces a game or the fact that guests are welcome to take centerpieces. For us we will be having poted orchids as centerpieces and we would liek the guests to take them…. (i killed all orchids i ever had… don’t want to be responsible for multiple murders LOL)
Post # 5
At my sister’s wedding, which was over 10 years ago, the DJ made an announcement that if there was something under your chair, you got to take the centerpiece home. Any weddings I’ve been to modern day, this hasn’t been done. My FI’s brother’s wedding, he was freaking out that no one was taking the flowers home and he had spent all this money on them for them to go to waste. But there’s so many venues now that offer their own centerpieces, own vases for you to use, etc. Like a PP mentioned, maybe place a note on the table stating that the flowers can be taken, but the vases must be left behind.
Post # 6
I’ve never assumed I could take a centerpiece. I took some flowers when they were offered to me once. Since you have a few months, and your wedding is rustic… you could collect glass containers from everyone like, spaghetti jars, olive jars, etc and make a small display with a sign. Someone put an idea about plastic wrap and I like that too but I always make things more difficult for myself. lol. You could always make it a cute feature somewhere by stacking all the jars and putting up a sign.
Post # 7
Unless you have a lot of elderly people at your wedding, I don’t think people tend to do that anymore. However, if I were really concerned, I’d get a package of plastic frosting bags (because they are big, sturdy, tapered and easy to find) and have a bridesmaid or older flower girl go around each table giving them out & telling people they are for the flowers to be taken home without the vases. I dunno- I think the dj announcing it could be tacky.
Post # 8
I never took a centerpiece home, but for most of the weddings I have been in, mothers of the bride or groom went around and urged us to take centerpieces home. I never felt comfortable doing that though and would never just take a centerpiece home. I think the note idea is great.
Post # 9
all the weddings I’ve been to pre select a person on the table to take home the flowers. Usually a sticker is put on the name tag/place setting of the person selected at each table. The MC/DJ tells everyone to look at their place setting at some point during the reception…they tell them to take home the flowers but not the vase.
most people know the etiquette anyway.
hope this helps.
Post # 10
I would never take a centrepiece unless it was announced to do so. I think now days people know a lot of that stuff is rented and may not be up for grabs.
Post # 11
My mom said at her wedding guests took home centerpieces as their favors. I’ve spent months collecting over 100 pieces of milk glass and I do not want it just going home with everyone! You bring up a really good question. I really like the idea of placing a note or having your DJ making an announcement! My venue is using their mason jars for cocktails and we are in the same boat on that one. We will be responsible for the ones that go missing. Guess I should make a note for that too!
Post # 12
It’s funny this is on the board today. Last week I was at the florist with my fiance and his mother for a consultation. While discussing the centerpieces Future Mother-In-Law literally said “I’m definitely taking these flowers home” I had no idea people did that.
Post # 13
I didn’t realize that people ever did this… I’ve only been to a handful of weddings though and maybe I just didn’t pay attention at the end. I certainly would never have picked one up and walked out with it! I plan on donating all of our flowers to the nursing home where my grandfather stayed before he passed away. I think it would be nice for the people living there and that they might enjoy/appreciate more. I am glad I read this though because I certainly don’t want anyone walking out with one of our rented vases from the florist!
Post # 14
I think it depends on the crowd. With my old employer, I’ve put on non-profit events and the flowers were taken at the end of the event. We literally flagged people down to get the vases back (which were not purchased by our organization). At our wedding, however, we didn’t have anyone after the florals, although they were almost all high floral centerpieces that were challenging to take down. Our immediate relatives ended up taking some home after we insisted (but noted that they should leave the vases).
Post # 15
@MexiPino: + 1
I had the same concerns and I think I’ll be taking Lia’s advice on the frosting bags. Maybe I’ll put a cute sign next to them too that indicates why they’re there.
Post # 16
I WANTED people to take the flowers home, and almost no one did!!! One friend did take a centerpiece to her friend in the hospital who had just had a baby. It seemed a shame for them to go to waste.
What ended up happening was pretty neat though – while the hotel staff was tearing down the ballroom, they (unbeknownst to us) took all the centerpieces and bouquets (which we had in vases during the reception) and decorated the suite we were staying in that night! So we walked into the suite and it was FILLED with our gorgeous flowers, as well as champagne, chocolate covered strawberries, and monogrammed robes with our wedding date for us to take home.