(Closed) Do guests traveling to a Destination Wedding also give gifts?

posted 9 years ago in Destination Weddings
  • poll:
    Yes, even if I spent a lot of money to travel to the wedding, I would still give the couple a gift. : (28 votes)
    33 %
    No, I would not feel that I owed the couple of gift, because I spent so to attend the wedding. : (16 votes)
    19 %
    I would give a gift, but it would be significantly less than if I didn't have to travel so far. : (41 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I have traveled to quite a few destination weddings and I have always gotten the couple a gift, even when the couple has explicity stated that coming to the wedding was more than gift enough.   

    That said, I’m not expecting much in gifts for ours, as people have already asked us “you’re not expecting gifts, right?”  While I do think it is rude to ask this, it at least has given me insight into the mindset of some of our guests. 

    I’m spending about the same amount as you on our Destination Wedding, and there are times when it makes me go absolutely crazy to think about how much we are spending, but at the end of the day, we WANT this wedding.  Anything we can recoup in costs will just be an unexpected bonus. 

    Post # 18
    Member
    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I am having a destination wedding….it’s in the states but is “destination” for everyone attending…I have specifically asked and had the word spread that there should be  “no gifts”.  I would feel guilty expecting or receiving gifts from someone who is spening the kind of money they’re spending to come to my wedding.  Also….I do NOT want to be traveling home with a bunch of gifts!

    To answer your question…if I were attending a wedding and spending that much to come, I would give you a nice card or make a small handmade gift of some sort that didn’t cost a lot.   I know it’s not “nice” to come to a wedding empty handed but in yours and my case…the “rules” should be bent in consideration of our guests.

     

    Post # 19
    Member
    553 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I gave cash on one occasion and a gift another. It depends on the individual or their financial situation. Some people will still send a gift as well even if they are unable to attend. One couple recived lots of homemade gifts and gift cards because some guests couldn’t afford more expensive gifts after paying so much to travel.

    Post # 20
    Member
    686 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    If your parents are paying for it then I wouldn’t be concerned about “recoupin” any funds since you’re not really “out” any money….unless you were planning on giving the monetary gifts to your parents?  I’m not really sure how this works, we are paying for our own wedding.

    Post # 21
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    173 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I think it’s totally dependent on how much the travel costs. I recently attended a destination wedding. I normally would spend $200-300 on a relative this close to me but spent upwards of $3000 just to attend! We gave them $50…

    I do not think they expected any gifts at all though. Quite honestly, after spending that much to travel, it was difficult to even part with $50!!

    Post # 22
    Member
    280 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If I was spending that much money to attend your wedding, I would only give a small gift.

    Post # 23
    Member
    5920 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    If I came to a destination wedding, I would still give a gift, probably around/at the same price point as if it were a local wedding.  If I can afford to fly somewhere and stay at a resort for a wedding, I am sure I can handle a gift too.  I say that now, but I have never really been in that situation before, so who knows! I’d love to go to a destination wedding though!

    Invite me and I will give you a gift, LOL! 🙂

    Post # 25
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    6392 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Honestly, if I came to your wedding I would get you something very small and a very nice card. However, I’m not in an awesome place financially. Maybe if I was, my opinion would be different!

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