Post # 1
My mom is planning on wearing a fascinator to my wedding which surprised me a bit, because I haven’t seen her wear one before.
She went to a wedding last weekend and was surprised nobody was wearing one, and expects at least one other person to wear one to my wedding coming up.
I don’t remember seeing people wearing fascinators at weddings I’ve been to and I’m a bit worried it might look a bit strange.
Is it common for guests in North America to wear fascinators, or should I try to convince her it’s not a good idea to wear one?
Post # 3
It is definitely NOT common, unless specified by the couple. I am attending a wedding next year where my friend said she thought it be fun for her guests to wear fascinators since she’s having a day wedding. If she never said that, it would never cross my mind to wear one.
If you’re not ok with it tell her, chances are, she may be the only one wearing one.
Post # 4
I wish they did!! I love them (athough I’ve never worn one). They are so pretty and stylish! What a fun thing to do while dressing up!
Post # 5
It’s becoming more and more common, especially since the Royal Wedding. I wear small ones to weddings sometimes.
Post # 6
Hats and fascinators are all but mandatory at a UK wedding, although some brides are asking people not to wear them now.
I think hats at weddings are such a lovely thing.
Post # 7
@atlas.wed: It hasn’t been common sine the royal wedding – ever since, I’m seeing them show up more and more at formal events in Toronto. I guess it does depend on your crowd though. My mother, who has never wore one, is wearing one to our wedding in Costa Rica (we are from Ontario) and is so excited. Big fun headbands and hairpieces are so popular right now, so even if noone else does, she’ll look trendy. I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s not the only one, and if she IS, she’ll look even more fab for it!
Post # 8
@SpecialSundae: echoing “Hats and fascinators are all but mandatory at a UK wedding…” Being English I can’t imagine a wedding without hats/fascinators. Not everyone wears them, just those who desire.
Post # 9
To weddings, no. To the Kentucky Derby, yes.
Post # 10
they are not common, however, I think it would be nice for the mother of the bride or other people of honor. In my sister’s wedding the two Maids of Honor wore flower fascinators to differentiate us from the bridesmaids
Post # 11
They are not common but I saw one guest wear one at a wedding I was recently in. They are so lovely; I wish guests would wear them more!
Post # 12
well, i don’t think it’s tradition in the US. HOWEVER, to my PERSONAL wedding, i have a group of online friends…we met 5 years ago when we were all planning our weddings (my wedding to Darling Husband1), so we’ve been through a lot together. they were there when Darling Husband1 died (took up a collection and sent me a care package), and they’ve been cheering me on since the beginning of my relationship with Fiance. at the beginning when i was freshly gushing about him, the one girl (who lives in scotland) said “we’ll be picking our hats before you know it”…and the rest of us were like “…picking our hats?” she explained the whole fascinator thing to us and said that “picking your hat” was sort of a euphamism for planning to attend a wedding. i’ll be inviting all these lovely ladies to our wedding, on the condition that they all wear ridiculous fascinators and we get a group photo.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2011 - Neverland Farms
I’ve worn big hats and fascinators to weddings! Hats seem to definitely be the norm here in the south, but fascinators are just now catching on.
Post # 14
ok ok. i’m outta the loop. i get what a hat is. duh. lol.
but what, exactly, is a fascinator?
Post # 15
@sunshine_kar: Like this as I wore for my hen do (I’m on the right, my Mum on the left)
Post # 16
@CatyLady: You’re gorgeous.
My sister organized all the women in attendance to wear hats or fascinators at our wedding. I had a whole post about it. It was supposed to be a surprise for me but i am super nosy. Some were very lovely. Some were kind of humorous. Some i asked to be ditched during family photos.