(Closed) Do Guys Go Out Anymore?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My husband worked with a jeweler who is a close family friend of his parents, so yeah, he did gout to his jewelry store a couple of times when he was picking out and buying my ring!

With online purchases, I would just make sure to go through a credible site. I have several friends whose husbands have ordered their engagement rings through Blue Nile. They had great experiences and those diamonds are the real thing.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We ordered my e-ring online but only because when we went to the jewelry store they told me it would be easier to order it offline in my specific size rather than put in a special order and wait weeks for the ring to come back sized. However, we were able to purchase the bridal set in the store that day. 

His ring we also had to order online due to him not liking any of the styles they had in the store. We had all rings checked out by the jeweler to make sure they were real because like you, we had doubts.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think it only takes 1 fake to debunk an entire business, so if you go with a place with a good rep, it’s fine (Blue Nile, James Allen). Plus jewelers can scam you too with switching diamonds, etc., so you have to know who to trust in real life and online. 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont see any problems with buying online from a reputable site – key word being reputable.  Most people will probably find that after doing their research online, that you will get a lot more for your money ordering online than from any jewlery store, especially chain stores in malls.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am obsessed with the gemvara.com website and have showed my Boyfriend or Best Friend the site and we both have seen lots of rings on there we both love. However, I told him I would be sketched out with him buying online, because you never know if it is going to look the same in person. Plus, I might love it online and hate it on my finger! I haven’t been able to find ANY reivews online from people who have bought actual engagment rings there, either, which is why I am concerned.

Unfortunately, there is a lack of good jewelers in the town we are in. The rings we have seen are really ugly or unoriginal, and it is hard to find a nice gemstone ring. I don’t know how he plans to get a ring ! I told him I wanted to try some on in person but our options are so limited, that online might be our best bet, but I am afraid of that for the same reasons you mention.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i think using a credible online retailer (like blue nile) is just as safe as buying it at a store. my fiance bought it in person from a jeweler friend but then still had it shipped (out of state) to avoid the crazy high NY sales tax.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I would be a little wary about buying a ring off of a site like ebay because I think it would be harder to verify that it was real, legit, etc…. but for a site like bluenile.com, they have a reputation to uphold just like Jareds. What keeps Jareds from giving you a hunk of glass? The fact that once people found out no one would buy from them any more. It works the same exact way for online jewelers. Honestly I would wage a bet that MOST men wouldn’t know the difference between a real and fake stone in person anyways, so buying in person really doesn’t protect you at all. 

 

Personally I was thrilled that my Fiance bought my ring on bluenile because I know he got a waaaay better deal on it than he would have at a brick and mortar store. I just don’t see why you’d choose to pay more for something? Or at least, not get the very most for the money you plan to spend. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Well, I think it all depends.

If you did your research you may find that some online sites may be cheaper than a retail store.

My husband literally went to every single jewelry store in our city and at the end of the day ended up getting it locally from our family jeweler.

When it came to our wedding bands I looked online, at stores, websites (jared, etc). I mean it’s all about being a smart consumer. Uncle Daves Jewelery store will not be any more reliable than http://www.jared.com.
We ended up purchasing our bands online from a jewelry store based in NYC. So yeah we purchased it online but it was from a real store. The second choice was a straight up online site only.

There are MANY sites out there that review reputable online retailers.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Not risky at all.  IMO, buying a ring from a reputable online dealer (BlueNile, Whiteflash, JamesAllen, Brian Gavin Diamonds, or Good Old Gold) is a smart move and I think we will see much more of it in the future.  It saves tons of money.  Also, a lot of chain stores like Zales, Jared’s etc. have rings that are certified by IGI and other labs that are not as respected in the industry as AGS and GIA.  I found there to be a larger selection of higher-quality diamonds online.

I don’t know if I would feel comfortable buying something from e-bay or a website that didn’t have a solid reputation in the industry, though. This is something I think you would really have to look into and research on a case-by-case basis before buying.

As an aside, I would recommend doing research on pricescope.com before buying a diamond.  Also, whether you get your ring online or at a brick and mortar store, you should get an independent appraisal for insurance purposes.  The appraiser should also take your certification and tell you for sure whether your stone matches that described in the certification.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

I was wondering the same thing, Gwen. I mean, I know you can find good deals online, but how do you know it’s a good stone? I thought more guys went to the store than it sounds like.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

When it comes to diamonds, the 4Cs.
Make sure your ring/diamond comes with a reputable certificate listing the 4Cs.

You won’t get any different at a brick and mortar store.

The diamonds on my ering and wedding band both came with GIA Certificates.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You know it is a good stone because you can view its certification.  Also, most websites have idealscope or something similar that allows you to view the stone magnified.  Finally, if you are interested in purchasing a stone with inclusions, you can call the retailer and ask them to pull the stone and tell you if it is “eye-clean.”  If you’re not satisified with it, you can return it in 30 days.

We went to brick and mortar stores to see some stones in person in order to determine our comfort level as far as the 4Cs.  Once we found that out, we looked for a stone with similar characteristics online.  We saved over $1000.

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