(Closed) Do guys think about it as much as we do?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
450 posts
Helper bee

I think it depends on the guy.  But generally speaking, I really don’t believe that men think about these things as much as women do. 

Post # 4
2313 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011


Post # 5
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Not your average guy, no. I know hubs was shocked when I was planning our wedding, he had no idea the amount of work that goes into it!

Post # 6
3942 posts
Honey bee

No, my FI is excited to plan a wedding but definetly does not think about it like I do.

Post # 7
5797 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

haha NO. They do randomly care about little details you wouldn’t expect them to, but overall no way.

Post # 8
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012


Well, in general I think the things men think about (wedding related) are

1) Show up on time (and mostly sober)

2) Say “yes” and the vows without stumbling over all the words

3) I hope my eyes are open in at least one photo so in 10 or so years when my memory of the day is fading, I have something to remember it by (and where my tummy is at least 20 pounds smaller)

4) Whats she wearing under that wedding dress


haha, mostly joking but I do think many men are not cognizant of those details unless their fiance brings them up.


I want my fiance to have the best wedding possible, but her and her mother are definitely taking the lead, but I will help in any way I can


Post # 8
2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Im going to go out on a limb and say.

NO….actually, HELL NO.

Women are wired to be worriers and planners. 🙂

Post # 10
5271 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Do they think about the planning & logistics of a wedding? I don’t think so.

But, men do have opinions about general things – but these opinions are usually formulated on the spot, not like they were at work thinking “humm I think a wedding should have this” 🙂

Post # 11
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@panterapeach: LOL! Agreed!

My man is not a detail person, even when he tries to be. All he cares about is how the food tastes and me not making him wear anything pink, otherwise it is up to me.

Post # 12
21 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

As a guy — I do think about that stuff!  I agree that it’s not all the time, nor to the extent of my fiancee, but I do think about the little details like where we should be positioned so that the sun is not in our guests’ eyes … what should be in the boutonnière, etc. etc.

I’m also very practical and not prone to flights of fancy, so things like timing, positioning, etc. are important to me.

Post # 13
588 posts
Busy bee

I think they think about the proposal, but no “waiting” or the “planning” like we do!! Yeah, my SO has randomly said things we must have or cannot have, but that’s the extent =)

Post # 15
211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Short answer: No

My husband did take some interest in some of the details. He had opinions about what food served at the reception, cake flavor, some stuff with the limo and what he was wearing. Overall though he just told me I should do what I wanted.

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