Post # 1
I’m planning my friends wedding and her cousin is a priest who they’d like to have conduct the vows.
They want a catholic wedding, one honored by the church, but they want to have a outdoor wedding as well. As Catholic’s are we allowed to be wed outside the church or does it need to be in a church in order to have your wedding blessed by the church?
Post # 3
@mollyzhang: I asked my mother and she is a devoted Catholic to her to have a catholic wedding implies getting married inside the church and having the Padres (the fathers) blessing and taking your flowers to the Virgin Mary.
There are priest that are ordain but do not represent or are affiliated with a Roman Catholic demonition;’ however I have never heard of any FATher going to perform any weddings outside the church, the only blessings they conduct are “the annointment of the sick” when they go to your home other than that all services are performed at church.
Post # 4
I am pretty sure that it needs to be in a Catholic church to be valid in the eyes of the Church. I am having a Catholic wedding and was told it needed to be in a church.
And as an fyi for your friend it is a pain in the @$$ to get married by the church. There is a bunch of annoying paperwork and you need to do pre-cana (essentially pre-marriage counseling).
Post # 5
It has to be in the church, with a priest. But, some people will have their marriages blessed later to have them recognized by the church.
Post # 6
It does have to be in a church. The catholic church will not even allow the ceremony to take place in the church grotto. Your parish can petition the vatican for a kind of “exemption” but its almost always denied.
Post # 7
You can have your reception outside! That’s what we did and it was great. No worries about your ceremony getting rained out (which it would’ve on our wedding day) but you still can have a big outdoor party. Best of both worlds!
Post # 8
You might also check about other church blessed ground, like a convent. I was told it just had to be “sacred ground” so we are having ours at our local convent.
Post # 9
You need to talk to her cousin – I’m also Catholic and wanted an outdoor ceremony, but our priest would not do it – but he did tell us that you can either try a) to find a priest willing to do it, or b) check on whether a deacon will do it (that is the solution they typically use if you want to get married in a church but only one of you is catholic). Good luck!!
Post # 10
yup it needs to be in the church!
Post # 11
My best friend got married outside by a deacon(both were Catholic) and it is recognized in the church. Basically they just asked him and he said sure. Not sure on the details but I am 100% sure it is recognized by the church.
Post # 12
It depends on the diocese, I believe, but generally you have to do it in the church. We have a similar situation, so we are doing a small Catholic ceremony in church with immediate family only, and a larger outdoor ceremony the next day.
Post # 13
If a person really wants an outdoor wedding, they can have a simple ceremony in a church first to have it blessed, and then have a larger ceremony outside.
Weddings aren’t just events to Catholics, it’s a sacrament. All sacraments (except annointing of the sick) are to take place in a blessed location – inside a church.
Post # 14
its very rare…. but FI’s sister got married outside the church and it’s recognized… their church was too small so they got approval to hold their wedding outside…