(Closed) do I ask this girl or not?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: what do I do?
    ask her anyway, if she can't afford it she can decline : (13 votes)
    93 %
    don't ask her, she already told you money was tight even though FI is asking her husband to be a GM : (1 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    199 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Tell her if she CAN come, you’d like her to be a bridesmaid.  (Personally I would also offer to pay for the dress in this situation).


    Post # 4
    400 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would ask her be make it clear that you totally understand if she can’t for whatever reason (without making it seem like you want her to say no). I had to do that with one of my bridesmaids since she had confided in me before I asked her that she might not be able to make it to my wedding because she planned on getting pregnant and might be due around my wedding day. So I asked her anyways but made it clear that I understood if she couldn’t because of a potential pregnancy. (my wedding’s more than 9 months away, so we don’t know yet if it will happen or not)

    Post # 5
    7656 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I don’t think there is any harm in asking her. She will probably be very flattered, but just tell her that you understand she said she may not be able to make it becuase of financial reason and you totally understand so if she can’t be a BM to let you know.

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