Post # 1
So, there’s a girl I’d like to ask to be a bridesmaid, but she just said (when asking about the wedding) that hopefully she’ll be able to make it but money is tight etc etc., my FI was a groomsman in her wedding and he’s going to ask him to be a groomsman in ours, so I thought it would be nice to have her be a bridesmaid (all of our guests are from out of town, they are traveling the furthest though if they can make it). Should I still ask her or would it look like I ignored her comment about finances??? Should I still just ask her and if she can’t make it/doesn’t want to be a bridesmaid she can just tell me? I don’t want to offend her by not asking her but I also don’t know what to do now :-/…
Post # 3
Tell her if she CAN come, you’d like her to be a bridesmaid. (Personally I would also offer to pay for the dress in this situation).
Post # 4
I would ask her be make it clear that you totally understand if she can’t for whatever reason (without making it seem like you want her to say no). I had to do that with one of my bridesmaids since she had confided in me before I asked her that she might not be able to make it to my wedding because she planned on getting pregnant and might be due around my wedding day. So I asked her anyways but made it clear that I understood if she couldn’t because of a potential pregnancy. (my wedding’s more than 9 months away, so we don’t know yet if it will happen or not)
Post # 5
I don’t think there is any harm in asking her. She will probably be very flattered, but just tell her that you understand she said she may not be able to make it becuase of financial reason and you totally understand so if she can’t be a BM to let you know.