Post # 1
Im getting married in June, and we are having 80 guests, almost entirely family.
My friend from school is getting married 2 weeks before, and I was not expecting an invite as we dont really see each other anymore. Today we have been invited to her evening reception. With an rsvp date in 4 days time (obviously B list).
Questions, do I go? If I go, do I have to invite them? We werent planning to as we arent really having any friends and are keeping it as small as poss. Buffett for main guests in eve. Inviting few friends later just for drinks if they ant to come. We dont want a formal wedding.
I really have no idea what to do.
Help appreciated! Thanks
Post # 3
You definitely don’t have to invite them. Invites aren’t tit for tat. Personally, I’d decline their invitation without a second thought. B-list and a tiered reception? No thank you.
Post # 4
Go if you want. You may have fun
No need to reciprocate the invite.
Post # 5
@ktmlny: If I didn’t see someone any more, I wouldn’t go to their wedding. We don’t keep in touch so why would I want to spend $$$ on an outfit and a gift for someone who isn’t part of my life?
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I’ve twice been a B-list invite, but with a lovely note from the bride- “We had so many family invites we couldn’t invite all our friends, now we can that we have family regrets and we’d love you to share in our day, etcc.” Both times I accepted and had a wonderful time.
4 days before the RSVP date? Maybe not so much. And I agree with PPs- invites aren’t tit for tat.
Sounds like you want to skip-no harm with a regrets RSVP.
Post # 7
Yea, no. I wouldnt accept or invite.
Post # 8
@ktmlny: You definitely don’t have to invite them if you go to their wedding! If you want to go, then go.