Post # 1
I heard that etiquette states you should never ask your parents for money, but instead see if they offer.
My stepmom apparently emailed my real mom and said “let her choose, and we’ll pay”, so i know that they are considering it, but no one has talked to me about it.
I’m at the point where I would like to know if a). they’re planning on helping, and if so, how much, and b). if they’re not, i’d like to know asap so i can figure out a budget with N that is feasible for us.
Do i bring it up with my parents? Or wait? We’ve only been engaged for about a month, so it’s still new-ish, but I can’t even dream let alone plan because I have no idea what our budget could or would be…
Post # 3
what you do is plan a wedding you can afford to pay for on your own. if they offer, then you can upgrade some aspects of the wedding, or save your own money for other things.
you dont ask, thats rude.
you can mention your own budget with your parents so they have an opportunity to offer. ask mom to “keep an eye out at thrift stores for candle holders, we are wanting to save as much money on the wedding as possible” if she sees that you arent thinking of having some platinum rediculous wedding, she may feel better about offering to help.
Post # 4
Don’t ask. If they bring up to you that they would like to help, I think it would then be safe to ask how much.
Post # 5
I understand the need to know what’s going on budget wise. I was in the same situation. Although I think it is wrong to ask your parents to contribute to the wedding, I see nothing wrong in asking them whether they plan on helping or not. As long as you make it clear that you aren’t asking for money or expecting them to pay for anything, it’s certainly acceptable to try and find out if they will be helping you or not.