(Closed) Do I buy ANOTHER gift? Would You?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Do I buy another gift? -- Your opinion
    No- $70 towards room accomodations is more than generious : (9 votes)
    23 %
    Yes- You should pay towards her accommodations and get her something else : (8 votes)
    20 %
    Yes- Get her something else, but a small gift : (22 votes)
    55 %
    Please see comments for my answer : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 2
    3901 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    CG4268:  I think it’s fine. Maybe just get her a card and write her a really heartfelt note? I would honestly prefer a bride to take care of some of the expenses of a wedding (such as covering the cost of the dress, or the cost of the hair and makeup, or the cost of the hotel, etc.) rather than just getting me a modge podge of random gifts. I would be perfectly happy with having my room paid for, and as long as you get her a card, I’m sure she’ll be happy with it, too.

    Post # 4
    99 posts
    Worker bee

    Sounds good to me! Or you could put a welcome bag in her room with a cheap bottle of wine and a card. Some simple along those lines. 

    Post # 5
    2947 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    The room is great, but I would throw in a gift she can kind of keep after the wedding.  With having it in wine country, I second the bottle of wine. 

    Post # 6
    268 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    CG4268:  I think that no matter what you decide, it’s really important to not compare what she did at her wedding with what you will do at yours.  If you feel like your gift is sufficient, then leave it at that!  If you’re feeling like maybe she needs a little something extra, go for it.  But it’s not a competition so I wouldn’t even worry about it.

    However, if this were me, since you’ve made an effort to keep her spending minimal, I would maybe just get her a little something tiny since she’s your only attendant- it doesn’t even have to be wedding related (it’s not like you have a whole bridal party to match up).  

    Post # 7
    2446 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We covered the cost of most of our guests’ rooms (the venue was a ranch property with cabins), and never considered NOT getting our wedding party gifts because of that. I agree with PP that you also shouldn’t compare what she did at hers, with yours.

    Post # 8
    114 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    How about since you’re paying for the room, maybe do a cute little welcome basket with a card for when she arrives?

    Post # 9
    787 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m also in favour of the wine bottle from your venue or the surrounding area. Her gift -$40 towards hair/make-up – does not sound like much of a gift to me, and the fact that her contributions to your bridal shower and bachelorette are minimal/non-existent doesn’t make me feel like you owe her much, in a sense of fairness. But not everything is fair so your generousity with the accommodations and a bottle of wine should more than suffice.

    Post # 10
    8695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I dont consider paying for something to help with your wedding (her accommodations) a gift so I would get her something that’s affordable to you and heartfelt. I wouldn’t compare it to how much she did or did not spend, though. One of my bridesmaids got married before me and I was her Maid/Matron of Honor and she got me a KEYCHAIN and contributed nothing towards any expense I had. I still got her a gift that I spent a few hundred on and I think it was heartfelt.

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