MemberHi Bees, i need help here. i was talking to my sis about my wedding and we are having the reception at my house and there will be about 35 to 40 people coming. The thing is i drink alittle and my family and his dont drink much. I just didn’t want alot of alcohol here and so i was going to do a byob for the reception here. What do you think???
MemberI would strongly advise against BYOB for a wedding reception, no matter how casual it is. If your family doesn’t drink much, get a few bottles of white wine and red wine and some cases of beer at a minimum.
MemberIf you don’t want a bunch of booze around why would you want each guest to bring their own? Just buy and serve what you are comfortable with.
Member@Mrs. Fireworks: +1. If your guests don’t drink much, it shouldn’t be a big deal to just buy a couple bottles of wine & possibly some beer. You can get relatively decent wine for <$5/bottle, and, with only 35-40 people who are light drinkers, you’d hardly spend very much.
MemberI agree with prior posters that asking your guests to supply their own alcohol would not be appropriate.
However, that does not, in turn, require you to provide it. If you and your Fiance and your families either do not drink or drink very little, you may just want to consider not having any alcohol present at your event. After all, there is no requirement for a polite host to serve alcoholic beverages to their guests, just a requirement that hosts provide the food and beverages served. You could serve many different kinds of non-alcoholic beverages (lemonade, flavored iced teas, soda, various juices, fancy non-alcoholic drinks, flavored seltzers and waters, etc) and still have a wonderful event.
MemberI feel like people might actually drink more if it is byob. At least our friends would! They would probably come with coolers and bottles of booze. I would be worried that could take away from your event- coolers sitting around, people trying to figure out where the can store their drinks, etc. Maybe you could provide some wine or 1-2 signature drinks? That way people are happy you provided something but you can limit the amount. Also maybe the signature drinks could be made with or without alcohol so you could have fun non alcoholic drinks for those who don’t drink as well.
MemberIt’s tacky to suggest BYOB. Like other people have said, just provide a couple cases of beer and a few classes of wine and you should be good!
MemberMemberMemberi was going to just get a few bottle of wine and a couple cases of beer and sodas and stuff and then i know it might be cool at night so i am serving coffee as well.
Member@ClassyKate: i tried to tell my sister that wasn’t a good idea and she didn’t believe me.
MemberIf not many will be drinking then you should go ahead and buy it, it will be cheap anyways and not so greedy sounding.
Member@nafarey7: wine and beer for 40 people isnt’ that big of a committment, just provide it.
MemberBYOB is for backyard bbq’s and house parties, not for weddings. Ever.
Member@fishbone: Ok i got that! I planned on providing some alcohol and not be cheesy. Thanks bees. I wouldn’t want people talkiing bad about my reception to people on facebook. That is why i come on here for your feedback. Thanks.
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