(Closed) Do i do byob or just provide the alcohol?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Do i put byob on the invitations or just provide the alcohol?

    No definitly rude.

    Do what you want it is your wedding!

    Yes put it on the invitation not many people there anyways!

  • Post # 3
    2999 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I would strongly advise against BYOB for a wedding reception, no matter how casual it is. If your family doesn’t drink much, get a few bottles of white wine and red wine and some cases of beer at a minimum.

    Post # 4
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    If you don’t want a bunch of booze around why would you want each guest to bring their own? Just buy and serve what you are comfortable with.

    Post # 5
    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @Mrs. Fireworks:  +1. If your guests don’t drink much, it shouldn’t be a big deal to just buy a couple bottles of wine & possibly some beer. You can get relatively decent wine for <$5/bottle, and, with only 35-40 people who are light drinkers, you’d hardly spend very much.

    Post # 6
    11533 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I agree with prior posters that asking your guests to supply their own alcohol would not be appropriate.

    However, that does not, in turn, require you to provide it. If you and your Fiance and your families either do not drink or drink very little, you may just want to consider not having any alcohol present at your event. After all, there is no requirement for a polite host to serve alcoholic beverages to their guests, just a requirement that hosts provide the food and beverages served. You could serve many different kinds of non-alcoholic beverages (lemonade, flavored iced teas, soda, various juices, fancy non-alcoholic drinks, flavored seltzers and waters, etc) and still have a wonderful event.

    Post # 7
    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I feel like people might actually drink more if it is byob.  At least our friends would!  They would probably come with coolers and bottles of booze.  I would be worried that could take away from your event- coolers sitting around, people trying to figure out where the can store their drinks, etc.  Maybe you could provide some wine or 1-2 signature drinks?  That way people are happy you provided something but you can limit the amount.  Also maybe the signature drinks could be made with or without alcohol so you could have fun non alcoholic drinks for those who don’t drink as well.  

    Post # 8
    373 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    It’s tacky to suggest BYOB.  Like other people have said, just provide a couple cases of beer and a few classes of wine and you should be good!

    Post # 13
    1085 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    If not many will be drinking then you should go ahead and buy it, it will be cheap anyways and not so greedy sounding.

    Post # 14
    3665 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    @nafarey7:  wine and beer for 40 people isnt’ that big of a committment, just provide it.

    Post # 15
    3884 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    BYOB is for backyard bbq’s and house parties, not for weddings. Ever.

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