- Little Bear
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
3 weeks to go and the friend who was supposedly taking care of everything to make sure my day went well decided nothing I want is simple enough for her.
She used to be an event planner so I hired her to relieve some of my stress, since I’m doing everything and I’m tired. I’ve made the invitations, the favours, the decorations… I was so tired I called her, settled a price for her work and stopped worrying.
All I needed from her was her organizing and cooking skills – she was going to make the 100-120 cupcakes and 60 – 70 fortune cookies for the reception. I just figured this way I could actually have my nails professionally done the day before and keep them looking pretty… I also trusted her enough to believe I might actually sleep the night before.
I asked her for help 4 or 5 weeks ago. 3 weeks ago we met to discuss details. Everything was pretty much decided and I just wanted her to make sure the venue had things just the way I planned.
After showing her my plan, I ended up eliminating underwater flower arrangements from the decoration because the setup would have taken a while so it was too much trouble. Then she had an issue with my personalized water bottles… I already have the stickers but she didn’t want to have to deal with carrying water bottles to the venue and setting them up in a large ice bucket. So that’s gone too. The list of things she eliminated because they were too inconvenient for her goes on and on…
I couldn’t decide between 3 recipes but she didn’t even want to try the orange cupcake recipe I brought so we only got to test the other 2. Nothing to decide there since Mr. Little Bear and I wanted to offer at least 2 flavours.
Now she contacts me to go buy supplies and bring them across Toronto to her house so she can test a new icing recipe. I was truly confused since I had already brought over tons of chocolate, jam, flour, food colouring, butter, eggs, cookies and other things the first time we met for tasting. I had also gave her $200 as a deposit for additional supplies 2 weeks ago.
I couldn’t figure out why I needed to get out of the house on my one day off and bring her butter! So I went on Facebook and I saw all these pictures of 2 trips she has taken since or last meeting, including pictures of a couple dozen water bottles full of sex on the beach (according to her own caption) sitting on her kitchen counter and several pictures of the many shots she drank!
She’s been laid off and everyone knows she never goes out anymore because she’s short on cash, just living on EI. Therefore I can be quite certain that’s where my money went.
On top of that she gives me yet another list of things she wants changed to make things easier for her. Basicaly all tables already have nothing but table number luminaries. The only flower decoration is two vases at the entrance. So she wants me to eliminate the favours which have the name of the guest and the table number – she tells me to make a sitting chart instead so she doesn’t have to supervise the favour table as people come in. She also wanted me to go to Chinatown and buy fortune cookies without the paper so she doesn’t have to make them because that’s easier for her!
Then she tells me she needs a car rental from Friday til Monday and I need to pay for that too. The thing is, the price of the rental and supplies was already included in our agreement. We had reached a price and I bumped it up $200 to cover a rental and gas, even though she lives 10 minutes away from the venue and a cab would be so much cheaper.
I honestly trusted her to make things easier for me so I wanted her to have the car because I to make sure everything went as smoothly as possible for her, which, at the end of the day, would mean my wedding day would go smoothly as well.
I kept trying to make things easier on her but it got to a point that I’d basically be paying her 2x what we initially agreed upon and I’d be getting nothing like I wanted. So I called her and told her to forget the baking. My mom and one of her best friends are flying into Canada a week earlier just so they can help me making all the cupcakes and stuff.
She still has to be at the venue the morning of to make sure that everything is how I wanted – no more changes to my plans. I’ll be there as well, prior to the ceremony to drop off a few things and make sure everything is how I chose instead of HER WAY.
I should have stuck to my original plan and done it all myself! It would have been cheaper and less stressful.