Do I give another gift?

posted 2 weeks ago in Home
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

daniellemc :  I think it’s totally ok! That’s a ton of graduation parties for one person! 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I would give just a card. She’s gotten enough graduation presents.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

A card is fine. I didn’t know graduation parties were gift giving events.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

The only graduation party where I’ve gotten/given gifts was for high school. I think that’s really weird she’s expecting gifts for so many events.

I’d bring a card and a bottle of wine or something.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

I wouldn’t have been giving repeat gifts for one yet courses anyway. 

You don’t need to get a gift, just bring a card. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

daniellemc :  I would have stopped after the first college one. Sure, people change their minds about what to study and/or do with their life, but why are other people expected to pay for that? You can be excited and proud of someone without giving them money.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

Oof… I would feel so awkward if I were her. Does she still expect presents and money at these parties?

No gift. Just a nice card.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Damn. Give her a card and a good self help/life reflection/finding your passion book  

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Thats a whole lot of graduations. I would not have gone to all of them. 

In my opinion, if youre going to a party its proper to bring a gift. It doesnt have to be a huge gift, just a gift. A nice card with a bottle of wine, or some bath and body stuff (Doesnt have to be expensive, go to TJ Max or something and get her something small, a picture frame, candle) just don’t go empty handed with only a card. 

Post # 12
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Newbee

I agree with PP. I’d bring a card and a bottle of champagne or flowers. That’s generally what people brought for my college graduation party. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

daniellemc :  wow that’s a lot of parties.

I would just give her a card, maybe a bottle of wine if i am in a good mood. Maybe if enough people stop giving her gifts she/her mom will stop having parties.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1995

I wouldn’t give a card or gift and I wouldn’t go.  That’s just ridiculous.  The high school one was fine.  The first college one was ok.  After that, no, just no.  

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

I don’t know which bothers me more: girl who apparently really likes to go back to school for specialized careers that she knows too little about to know they’re a bad fit for her or her mom who feels the need to celebrate every single graduation. I’ve got a few degrees and my last graduation party was high school.

No, you can just bring a card and you’ll be perfectly fine. Gifts should not be expected at events like this in general, but especially not when they’re annual occassions.

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