Post # 1
My aunt is throwing a graduation party for my younger cousin. Again.
She graduated from high school and my aunt threw her a graduation party. I gave a card and a monetary gift. Two years later she graduated from vet tech school. Her mom threw a party and I gave a card and a monetary gift. A year in She decided being a vet tech wasn’t the career for her so she went back to school for something like sports medicine. A year later she graduated and my aunt threw her a graduation party and I gave a card and a monetary gift. Last year she decided sports medicine wasn’t the career for her so she took an accelerated nursing program and just graduated. My aunt is throwing her another graduation party. My husband and I bought a house and had a baby in the past year so finances a little tight. Can I go to her 4th graduation party and just bring a card with congratulations inside only, no cash? Is that ok?
Post # 2
daniellemc : I think it’s totally ok! That’s a ton of graduation parties for one person!
Post # 3
daniellemc : I’d bring a card and a bottle of wine. No cash.
Post # 4
I would give just a card. She’s gotten enough graduation presents.
Post # 5
A card is fine. I didn’t know graduation parties were gift giving events.
Post # 6
The only graduation party where I’ve gotten/given gifts was for high school. I think that’s really weird she’s expecting gifts for so many events.
I’d bring a card and a bottle of wine or something.
Post # 7
I wouldn’t have been giving repeat gifts for one yet courses anyway.
You don’t need to get a gift, just bring a card.
Post # 8
daniellemc : I would have stopped after the first college one. Sure, people change their minds about what to study and/or do with their life, but why are other people expected to pay for that? You can be excited and proud of someone without giving them money.
Post # 9
Oof… I would feel so awkward if I were her. Does she still expect presents and money at these parties?
No gift. Just a nice card.
Post # 10
Damn. Give her a card and a good self help/life reflection/finding your passion book
Post # 11
Thats a whole lot of graduations. I would not have gone to all of them.
In my opinion, if youre going to a party its proper to bring a gift. It doesnt have to be a huge gift, just a gift. A nice card with a bottle of wine, or some bath and body stuff (Doesnt have to be expensive, go to TJ Max or something and get her something small, a picture frame, candle) just don’t go empty handed with only a card.
Post # 12
I agree with PP. I’d bring a card and a bottle of champagne or flowers. That’s generally what people brought for my college graduation party.
Post # 13
daniellemc : wow that’s a lot of parties.
I would just give her a card, maybe a bottle of wine if i am in a good mood. Maybe if enough people stop giving her gifts she/her mom will stop having parties.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t give a card or gift and I wouldn’t go. That’s just ridiculous. The high school one was fine. The first college one was ok. After that, no, just no.
Post # 15
I don’t know which bothers me more: girl who apparently really likes to go back to school for specialized careers that she knows too little about to know they’re a bad fit for her or her mom who feels the need to celebrate every single graduation. I’ve got a few degrees and my last graduation party was high school.
No, you can just bring a card and you’ll be perfectly fine. Gifts should not be expected at events like this in general, but especially not when they’re annual occassions.