Do I give another gift?

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Post # 16
47289 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you want to attend, I would take a card. I probably would have stopped attending after the first career change.

Post # 17
894 posts
Busy bee

If it were me I’d bring some flowers or if it’s like a bbq graduation party type thing I would bring baked goods.

Post # 18
940 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Honest to God, your aunt needs to stop throwing her graduation parties.  High school graduation?  Yes.  First higher education completion?  Ok.  But beyond that the parties need to stop. 

I imagine your aunt is very proud of her accomplishments, so she should take her out to dinner and maybe buy her a special gift.  But to expect others to keep showing up for all these parties?  It would be a hard no from me.

Post # 19
9380 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

what kinds of programs is she taking that she is able to complete being a vet tech and sports medicine in one year?

also, just a card is fine.  i would have stopped giving gifts after the 1st two. sounds very gift grabby to keep throwing parties.

Post # 20
6880 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Tell your aunt to stooooppppp! 

But in all seriousness, I agree with others. Just give her a nice bottle of booze and call it a day. 

And am I the only person here who never ever had a single graduation party thrown ever? 

Post # 21
15002 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

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llevinso :  nope, I’ve never had one or know anyone that had one!  Graduations were just a small going out to dinner event.  

But I’d do a card and wine or small gift like caitlinbee mentioned.  It’s ridiculous to have this many grad parties, but I also don’t show up to hosted events without a little something in hand. 

Post # 22
4033 posts
Honey bee

On what planet does someone get a party every time they change career paths? That’s bananas. I wouldn’t even attend…

Post # 23
393 posts
Helper bee

Professional student.  No gift necessary.  After this many graduation parties, I wouldn’t even go.

Post # 24
2452 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’d go. Be happy for her. Card & something nursing related. Maybe a book?

Post # 25
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Ive never even had one graduation party and I graduated highschool, 3 vocational colleges and 2 universities lol.

certainly no one gave me cash (not even a card) after all these where things I did for myself and my life.

Post # 26
942 posts
Busy bee

Wow clearly I need to send this thread to my Mom, who never threw me 80 parties for graduating lmao. 
No don’t buy a gift, she’s an adult not three, she doesn’t need gifts for finishing a program she decided to do. 

Post # 27
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Good lord that is beyond excessive. I’d have also stopped giving money after the first post-high school graduation. There’s no reason to keep giving her money. 

Post # 30
634 posts
Busy bee

I have a slightly different perspective, but your gift basket decision is perfect.

Who cares why her mum is throwing the parties? She is. I don’t think a cash gift is required. I would treat it as any other party and show up with a bottle of wine (or your gift basket). If a friend was hosting an event “just because” I would of course bring a hosting gift.

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