Post # 31
Oh man this feels familiar – my mom loves throwing parties and BBQs at my parents vacation home in the summer. Thus I’ve had:
HS grad party in 2008
College grad party in 2012
Engagement party in 2019
and now she wants to throw a masters grad / 30th birthday party for me in Summer 2020.
Keep in mind, between the engagement party and now I’ve also had a shower, a Bach, and a wedding. I’m all for going to another party, but I just don’t want to be the guest of honor again! I feel like people are tired of giving me gifts!
OP your gift is super thoughtful and appropriate. I don’t mind going to things, but at some point it does just feel a little ridiculous
Post # 32
AnonBee2019 : you can do what i did for our gender reveal! We sent out invitations and at the bottom we wrote in bold letters “ABSOLUTELY NO GIFTS PLEASE!” my husband and i felt that it was asking a lot of people to come to the gender reveal and thinking they had to bring a gift and then the baby shower a few weeks later. We simply wanted to have a small get together to tell the gender of our baby without any strings attached. just come and enjoy some good food and commpany and see if we’re having a boy or girl. If your mom wants to throw the party, let her, but explain that you do not want gifts, just good company 🙂
Post # 33
honestly if she came empty handed to your kids baptism (TBH I had no idea a baptism was a gift giving event, but I’ve never been to one–so unless she has that same excuse she knew better and chose not to) I feel she set the tone and you can just be like “cool this is what we’re doing now” and go with just a card…
Post # 34
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
Damn that’s excessive lol NO you definitely don’t need to give more money.
Post # 35
I have never even heard of a graduation party till now but at this point I’d say she should consider stopping having them – is it not getting embarrassing??
Definitely no more cash!
Post # 36
My mom insisted on having graduation parties for me for high school, college, and my masters degree. I wanted to kill her. I tried to refuse the last one. Turns out that my brother’s college graduation party was also a “surprise” graduate school graduation party for me. It wouldn’t have been quite so bad if I hadn’t graduated early from both college and graduate school due to hardly having to work because my parents paid for a lot of it. Sometimes moms are weird. I doubt she expects a gift after all that.
Post # 37
No more cash! At this point you’re practically funding her education! 🤣
Post # 38
Yeah, this is way too many graduation parties. I had one for high school and I cannot even remember if I had one for my college graduation, but if I did it was just a small family gathering. I then went on to get my master’s degree and I would have put my foot down if there was a party planned for that.
Post # 39
Man, I feel like I am owed some parties!! JK. I think the gift basket idea is a lovely one. She is an adult now. Adults have all sorts of major accomplishments. We don’t get gifts every time we change jobs, get promoted, etc.