Post # 1
He’s been with her for 1.5 years. They seem pretty serious but I know he doesn’t plan on getting married again (about 3 years ago my parent’s went through a crappy divorce and he says he’s to old to go through all of that marriage stuff again). She will be sitting up in the front for the ceremony, but I was reading that parent’s, step parents and grandparents, officant, & ushers should get boutonnieres and corsages. She isn’t technically a step parent, but I would feel rude if she didn’t have one? Opinions?
Post # 2
I think you are fine either way. No one would fault you if you did (being too nice and inclusive isn’t a crime), but no one would fault you if you didn’t give one to a girlfriend of 1.5 years who joined your family so-to-speak well after you became an adult (vs. A girlfriend or step-mom who was there through adolescence) . I would consult with your dad and see how he feels about it. I personally would if they are committed – being nice to people feels nice.
Post # 3
Flowers are mainly for pictures. Is she going to be a part of any family portraits? If she is not, I’d be less inclined to give her one. If you really like her though, giving her one would not hurt.
Is your mom remarried or engaged? If she’s not, I’d think giving your dad’s girlfriend a corsage would be putting her on the same level as your mom, and your mom might be insulted. I don’t know, something to think about.
Post # 4
Both of my parents had been dating their SOs for about 4 years by the time I got married. I struggled with this too. Partially because my mom’s boyfriend is awesome, but my dad’s girlfriend is awful. I knew I couldn’t get him a boutonniere without getting her a corsage too.
In the end, we decided to only allow immediate family and the wedding party in pictures. No boyfriends/girlfriends… only married. Therefore, we didn’t get either of my parent’s SOs a flower of any kind.
Post # 5
If you have a good relationship with her and want to include her, that’s up to you (do you want her in pictures too?). But, personally, I wouldn’t. I think corsages and boutonnières are for family / people you want to honor. For all I know, you feel this way about her, but I’m not gleaning that from your post.
Post # 6
Why don’t you ask her if she wants one? She might just say no thanks, and then you don’t have to stress about it
Post # 7
I would go ahead and do it!! It doesn’t hurt, and it doesn’t mean that you are obligated to have her in pictures. Plus, it will mean a lot to her and your dad.
Post # 8
I think I would if I were you. A bit different than your situation but I had bought some for a couple of close family friends too and they really seemed to appreciate it. I wanted something to show they were honored guests and they also sat up front.
Post # 9
amy98 : I’d just keep it at blood parents and grandparents and bridal party that way you are not offending anyone. It makes the boundary quantitative and easy to explain.
Post # 10
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I would speak to your father and see what he says
Post # 11
I probably would do so if you like her and get along and therefore want to include her.
My parents are also divorced and dad has been with his Girlfriend for about 2 years so I am planning to get her a flower to wear and invite her to get ready with my family 🙂