Do I give my dad's girlfriend a corsage?

posted 1 month ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

I think you are fine either way.  No one would fault you if you did (being too nice and inclusive isn’t a crime), but no one would fault you if you didn’t give one to a girlfriend of 1.5 years who joined your family so-to-speak well after you became an adult (vs. A girlfriend or step-mom who was there through adolescence) .  I would consult with your dad and see how he feels about it.  I personally would if they are committed – being nice to people feels nice.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Flowers are mainly for pictures. Is she going to be a part of any family portraits? If she is not, I’d be less inclined to give her one. If you really like her though, giving her one would not hurt. 

Is your mom remarried or engaged? If she’s not, I’d think giving your dad’s girlfriend a corsage would be putting her on the same level as your mom, and your mom might be insulted. I don’t know, something to think about. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Both of my parents had been dating their SOs for about 4 years by the time I got married. I struggled with this too. Partially because my mom’s boyfriend is awesome, but my dad’s girlfriend is awful. I knew I couldn’t get him a boutonniere without getting her a corsage too.

In the end, we decided to only allow immediate family and the wedding party in pictures. No boyfriends/girlfriends… only married. Therefore, we didn’t get either of my parent’s SOs a flower of any kind.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

If you have a good relationship with her and want to include her, that’s up to you (do you want her in pictures too?). But, personally, I wouldn’t. I think corsages and boutonnières are for family / people you want to honor. For all I know, you feel this way about her, but I’m not gleaning that from your post. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Why don’t you ask her if she wants one? She might just say no thanks, and then you don’t have to stress about it

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I would go ahead and do it!!  It doesn’t hurt, and it doesn’t mean that you are obligated to have her in pictures.  Plus, it will mean a lot to her and your dad.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I think I would if I were you. A bit different than your situation but I had bought some for a couple of close family friends too and they really seemed to appreciate it. I wanted something to show they were honored guests and they also sat up front. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

amy98 :  I’d just keep it at blood parents and grandparents and bridal party that way you are not offending anyone. It makes the boundary quantitative and easy to explain. 

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I would speak to your father and see what he says 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I probably would do so if you like her and get along and therefore want to include her. 

My parents are also divorced and dad has been with his Girlfriend for about 2 years so I am planning to get her a flower to wear and invite her to get ready with my family 🙂 

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