(Closed) Do I give my future MIL/FIL a gift even though…

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think it doesn’t hurt to get them something small as an acknowledgement… it is a special day for them no matter what the financial contribution.  If you feel it isn’t fair I would just give your parents a gift separately when you’re alone vs.  in front of them.  I think that would avoid any issues.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

What kind of gift are you thinking?  Also, just because they aren’t there monetarily doesn’t mean they aren’t emotionally.  And if you are going to make a “thing” out of the gift say, by giving it at the rehearsal then I would get something for both parents.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Same scenario for us and our small acknowledgement was a frame with our date engraved on it.

(Also, I have heard that parent gifts are also just “thank you for raising me so well” gifts).

In hindsight, I wish the in-laws had gotten nothing from us. I’m sure our frame is in the garbage right now. (Long story, different thread)

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Same situation here.  We are even paying for FIL’s tux.  I am making my parents an album and probably get them a gift card to a nice restaurant too.  But for the in-laws, they will get one of the “brag” books from the photographer and one 8 X 10 pic that also comes with our package.  They probably won’t even want that. 

Post # 7
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698 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

on second thought, maybe I’ll keep the brag book for me and just print a few 4 x 6 pics in a cheapo pocket album for them.  Like “just squeeze” stated above, long story….

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Absolutely.  You are thanking them for their son and for everything they have done to get him to that point, not just the wedding.  🙂

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think unless there is a specific reason NOT to give a gift, it is a nice gesture.  

You can think of it as saying thank you to your FIL’s for raising a man as great as your FI!:)

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