Post # 1
These 3 men:
the priest, the musician who plays organ, and the singer. i’m getting married at a university church.
The priest is Catholic so he’ll be wearing a white robe. But maybe he’ll be wearing a suit for afterwards? I guess I should get him one, right?
The musician is the music director of the church who we are required to have if you want to get married at the university church. he always does it and in fact he’s doing a wedding immediately following ours in the same church like half hour later so I’m assuming I don’t have to get him one?
The cantor/singer is hired by the university/church. i got to pick from several and i picked him. i don’t know him and won’t meet him til the wedding day though i’m emailing with him.
what do you think? i’m ordering silk boutonnieres online now, someone get back to me asap! lol
Post # 3
i don’t know what proper etiquette is on such a thing… but i have no intentions of buying for mine. if you buy for these guys – where do you draw the line with vendors?
if you don’t have a personal relationship with them, i would think it would not be neccessary. my pastor is not only a family friend for decades, but we’re actually getting married on her wedding anniversary! so i do plan on doing something special for her and her partner, but i am not getting her a corsage to pin on.
Post # 4
I don’t plan on it. It would only be for the groom, groomsmen, and the males in our immediate family.
Post # 5
I don’t think so. I’m not. I mean it sounds like your priest will not need one because he has a huge robe on top of his clothes and you never know he could be super casually dressed under neath it….
Post # 6
I don’t think you have to. The priest can’t wear one on his robe, the musical director will probably just take it off for the next wedding, and the singer won’t expect one. I went to a catholic wedding in which the had the sam “key players” as you did – neither of them had one on.
Post # 7
The priest will probably wear blacks and collar afterwards, not a suit, and so he’ll definitely stand out. I don’t think a bout needs to be bought for any of them – unless they’re guests who will be attending the reception (not including the priest). Otherwise, consider them vendors. Just because they’re in the church doesn’t mean they need to be distinguished.
Post # 8
Oh ok. Good point about where do i draw the line with the vendors.
Well before I read these responses I’d already gone ahead and ordered three extra bout.’s. But they’re silk ones that are only $6.00 so I don’t care. I’ll have them handy and around just in case, you never know.