Do I go?

posted 5 months ago in Guests
Post # 16
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1073 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

dsaasd :  I think its super odd that you guys are as close as you are but you never met his WIFE to be. If my man that I’m about to marry was that close to some other girl I would wanna meet her. Maybe the fact that you seem to not be inviting Susan to these get togethers is leaving a funny taste in her/his mouth. Im assuming because you said I invited him to coffe and not them. Once you are engaged/married I’m not saying you have to drop every friend you have of the interested gender but I think there needs to be some boundaries and the friendship should generally include the spouse. Correct me if I’m wrong and if you have included her but the wording of this post makes it seem like you don’t.

Post # 17
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1073 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

seraphina :  I think that’s very common as it should be if im marrying someone I expect to be his best female friend and I certainly wouldn’t be happy if my man was calling some other women and being there for her emotionally for hours on end and having coffee/lunch/dinner dates. Literally makes it sound like there is some casual relationship. I think the opposite sex friendship should include BOTH parties. Once you are engaged/married priorities change and hands down the partner should come first. I would never dream of putting a male friend ahead of my fiance and if he expressed discomfort with a situation absolutely I would back down from the friendship (meaning still be friends but less one on one or often)

Post # 21
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1073 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

dsaasd :  sorry i misunderstood. But yeah I feel like you have to understand her perspective another women is asking to speak specifically to her man alone about THEIR wedding. I’m not saying by any stretch your intentions are bad I know they are not but it may be odd to his fiance. I dunno though coming from the perspective of an engaged women i would feel weird if another women wanted to speak to him alone (not referring to a female relative obviously) especially about OUR wedding. I would probably tell him to politely tell his female friend that i would like to be there as well. 

Post # 22
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4802 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

dsaasd :  if the invite was sent before all of this drama then I would rsvp a big no. It’s been 3 months and he doesn’t seem to care about you at all, how you are, etc. That’s not a friend to me.

Post # 23
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1073 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

dsaasd :  yeah that’s not cool to invite you and then uninvite you but I think it is best since it is a wedding for both of them you have this conversation with both of them present i mean it literally has to do with the two of them and does involve her because generally invites are chosen together as a couple.

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