(Closed) Do I have a right to be angry, or am I overreacting?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I’d be angry if he were driving drunk, because not only is he putting himself in danger, he’s also putting other people’s lives in danger. Most of all I’d be worried. Hope he’s ok

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hope he’s okay! My first thought is … wow, his friends are jerks! You have every right to feel the way you do. But when he comes home try not to be too angry, just really let him know that you were worried about him for getting himself into such a bad situation.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

@HerNameWasLola:  I hope he is ok! ( I am sure he is).

If you’re anything like me… the anger has probably subsided at this point and you’ve moved on to the worried phase. Just try to relax until you hear from him and get a chance to see what is going on. He may have just passed out in the car to sober up… or the poor guy could still be walking! Just try not to let your imagination run too wild. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

Hope he’s okay. I would be livid. When he’s sober tell him his drunkenness is a turn off and makes you lose your sexual desire for him. See if he does something like this again.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well, to his (dis)credit, he’s working on two brain cells.  If you don’t hear from him within thirty minutes, I would probably call his friends…or a cab.

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@HerNameWasLola:  First of all, calm down. Reacting emotionally will only be hard for the both of you. Try calling the hospitals and jails. See if he is at either location. He could have gotten pulled over for a dwi or something. I’d be angry too. There is no excuse for driving drunk and it’s so not funny to joke about such a thing. I hope you find him safe and sound.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

p.s. I don’t envy you and will continue checking out this thread and hope to get a good update soon. *hug*

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I lost my cousin to a drunk driver, so this infuriates me. You’re not overreacting. And he won’t think it’s so damn funny if he kills someone, or himself. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Oh you should be angry, I’d be LIVID! There is no reason for him to get that drunk and start calling you saying idiotic things and then saying he was going to drive!! If that car is on both of your insurance and owned by both of you I would not let him take it out again if he’s going out drinking with friends obviously he can’t be trusted to make good decisions. My Fiance drove drunk once and I lectured him to no end. It was only a 5 minute drive but I was still fuming he could have killed someone! I laid into him until he was ashamed, so ashamed he hasn’t had more than a couple of beers at a time since, has not been drunk at all since then and it’s been 3 years.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You are definitely not overreacting. This is extremely dangerous behavior, if he is driving a car, or even walking home. Someone could hit him with their car or he could hurt himself or someone else while driving drunk. DUIs can even lead to you losing your job! So yes, you are totally justified in being concerned and upset. There is no excuse for this type of behavior especially since he had a plan to drink and take the bus home. This is immature, reckless, and irresponsible behavior. I hope he turns up soon and he is okay! In the morning you need to have a long talk with him about this and how it made you feel. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would be upset. I thought that FH drove drunk a couple of months ago (I didn’t know that his brother had given him a ride home) and I scolded him in the morning and (oops) told him I would punch him in the face if he ever drove drunk again.

I think that if you can ascertain that he’s alright (conscious, not in jail, not in a hospital) by calling his friends then you’ll have peace of mind but — if not, all you can do is hope that he makes it home okay and then chew him out in the morning. 

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