- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
OP, I would’ve called the police after the first call and had them looking for him. I hope he never mixes alcohol with those meds again. Alcohol is a depressant, and if he needs antidepressants, the alochol will just make his condition worse. If he does go out, he needs to have someone pick him up from the house, and leave the car with you. At least you’d have a way of going out to look for him. How was he planning to get back to the car if he took the bus home?
My husband and I have an agreement: if one of us has too much to drink, we call the other to come pick us up. And we go get the other person, no questions asked and nobody gets angry. He’s never gone out and had drinks, but I had to call him once. I was at a business dinner and had a little too much wine. We’re both in our 30s, but if we did something dumb and both had too much to drink, his parents would still come pick both of us up, and take us home, no questions asked. They’d probably either be a little grumpy if we woke them up in the middle of the night, or laugh at us over it, but they’d come get us because what they care about the most is that we are safe. They’re in their 60s, and probably would never go out and get drunk, but we’d do the same for them if they did.
When he wakes up/sobers up, he needs to call his Mom and apologize for worrying both of you. And I bet *she’ll* lay into him- let Mom play bad cop on this one, and read him the riot act.
I think you really need to talk to him. What if he had killed someone? What if he had killed himself? It is sheer luck that he didn’t.
Two friends of mine have been killed by drunk drivers in two separate accidents. And a guy from my university has a record for drink-driving after driving with a hangover the morning after – which has screwed up his entire career.
Personally, I have always made it clear to my Fiance that if he were to ever drive drunk I would a) call the police and b) leave him. It worries me that you don’t even think you have a right to be angry.
OP, I’ve been following this thread and I’m so relieved for you that he’s home safe and sound and seems to have learned his lesson.
I am glad he’s home safe and sound and slept in his car… I’d still kick him in the ass though! HeeHee
And I would let him read this thread all about him!
My niece was killed by a drunk driver at the tender age of 18 years old. I would be well-past furious!
Stop saying you went overboard, you didn’t. For one…he’s drinking and driving, he could’ve killed someone. Two, he’s drinnking while on pills, dangerous. Three….he was too scared to go home so goes to a diner. Really? Last time my ex-boyfriend did that, was cause he cheated, was ashamed to see me. He was too drunk to remember. I didn’t find out until I paid phone bill a month later, seen an unusal phone number on call log. But in your case, your FI swore up and down so no need to worry, not funny about the texts “about picking up a girl”. That joke alone brings suspicion.
I’m sure he learned his lesson and hopefully never does it again, BUT don’t ever think you are going overboard and I’m sure his mom appreciates you contacing her.
Op, I came back to see how everything played out. I’m glad he’s safe and sound! *hugs!*
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