- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
My husband and I are newlyweds and this was the first Christmas together officially as husband and wife. We’ve been dating for several years before we got married and never really spent the entire holidays together; only a day or two and then we would go off and spend it with our respective famiies.
Some background info:
His family is small; really it’s just him and his parents. They don’t really have any traditions, so Christmas is about spending time together. However, they live just down the street from us, so we have dinner with them at least once a week, which is more often than my family gets together for dinner.
My family is bigger and do not all live in the same country. This year, we made plans to meet in one central place out of the country, and spend Christmas together, especially since I don’t see them that often.
I am the type who likes to plan things in advance, whereas he is more of the go-with-the flow type.
We had made holiday plans early on in December, and the day before we were to head out of town to meet with my family, he tells me he wants to post-pone by one day when we leave because he wanted to spend some time with his parents. I tried making a compromise with him by suggesting that we have lunch with them and then leave later that evening, but he didn’t even consider it. This upset me because this took away from the limited time that I would get to spend with the family.
Why did this upset me? Because we had discussed making these plans several weeks ago, and he had no objections to it so I assumed that everything was set to go. And then at the last minute, he changes plans on me, which he knows bugs me.
And now, it’s the night before we are supposed to leave, and he changes his mind again and now decides to cancel on the trip altogether.
I am still planning on going to spend time with my family, but I’m disappointed in his decision.
Do I have a right to be angry?