(Closed) do i have a say in shower

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

wait what? she said people who bring a shower gift won’t bring a wedding gift? i’ve never heard of that before. my shower was 3 months before my wedding (mainly because my sis wanted it to be during a good weather month and in the SF bay area, september is a good month) and people got some stuff off our registry that was geared for a shower (like small kitchen items). those same people also got a wedding gift. i’m not trying to say it’s all about the gifts. i’m just saying i think your sis is wrong about that.

to answer your question- you should get a say in the date of the shower & bachelorette party. 


Post # 4
3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Can you have your shower before her daughter’s birthday?  And everyone who came to my shower also brought a gift to the wedding..

Post # 5
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I ALWAYS bring a gift to both the shower and the wedding, I don’t know what she’s talking about.  Honestly, you’re running out of time to invite people – you should be giving them at least 3 weeks’ notice, IMO.  What’s wrong with February 2 or 9?  Be firm with her – tell her Feb 23 is too close to the wedding, and that the only date that works for you is Feb 2 (or 9 or whatever you want). 

Post # 7
4035 posts
Honey bee

@cassy.thompson1:  Honestly, calm down. I don’t know any rules or general practices, but my wedding shower will be 3 days before my wedding because all of my family will be travelling (over 1500 miles) to come out for the wedding.

I wouldn’t put too much stress on the date/how far before, but focus more on if the date works for you and other people.

Post # 8
29 posts

you should definitely have a say

Post # 9
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You should definitely have a say, especially if it’s about the date.

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