Post # 1
Hi there everyone
So my life is quite chaotic at the moment (not by choice) and I mildly panicking about whether or not I have enough time to get my wedding dress.
The story is this: right now I’m working as an English teacher in South Korea. I am South African and met my American Fiance whilst working here. He recently proposed and we agreed to having our wedding in South Africa. Fine- grand, no issues so far. The thing is our contracts end at the end of May and the wedding is taking place in mid- January of next year. I have decided to go to the states to purchase a wedding dress (mainly because there is more of a variety/styles and also I’m on the cusp of “normal/plus-size”). EVERYWHERE online, I see posts/ articles/ wedding time-lines saying that you should not leave buying your wedding dress for any later than 8-9 months.
Since I obviously have no other option, I wanted to know what the chances are of getting a dress that I want? I really like Maggie Sottero, Demtrios and Allure dresses and while I know you can get priority dresses, almost none of them appeal to me. Is the likelihood high that I will have to settle for one of these? Or will I be able to have a dress of my choosing?
TL;DR: Due to circumstances I am only able to go wedding dress shopping 6 months before my wedding. Will I be able to get a dress of my choosing or would I have to get a priority dress or sample?
Also any advice just in general would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 2
It depends where you go and if you need to have the dress shipped (I don’t know of any stores that would do that for you). 6 months is super short notice and I would be worried if it was me. My dress took 8 months to come in (ordered mid-October and received it end of June). You CAN put a rush on the dress, but triple check with the store to see how much faster that is (it could only mean 2 weeks difference). You can get a dress within 4 months if you go to a place with quick turn around. Don’t expect big designer names to be any less than 6 months because of the high demand in ordering. BUT, off the rack may be your best friend – you could get a designer dress for less money, and you can walk out of the store with it that day. Good luck! I hope you walk away with your dream dress 🙂
Post # 3
nomadbride: You will likely have to get a sample or pay rush fees if you leave it that late. What dresses have samples available to be sold also varies a lot (they probably won’t want to let go of their only sample right in the middle of wedding season, for example). Can you go to dress shops where you are and make a decision on a dress earlier? You may still be able to order it from the US. Replicas are also an option, although it can be risky.
Post # 4
I’m in a similar boat – I live in Japan and did my dress shopping in Canada. I shopped for my dress six months before I would need it and made that clear to the two stores I went to. One said it would be tight but they would make it work and the other told me there was no problem. I went with the latter, and they gave me a timeline of 4 months.<br /><br />I don’t know the stores you’ll be going to in the US, and you may very well find some dresses or stores won’t be able to arrive in time, but there are still plenty of options within your timeline. Good luck, and happy shopping!
Post # 5
I’m wondering, between the cost of flying, rush fees, shipping your dress to SA and the stress of it all, if it might make more sense to get a custom dress made in Seoul. I think there are some pretty talented seamstresses there and it might be worth considering. Maybe you can try on some there locally, and come up with your own design. Just a thought!
Post # 6
I live in canada and bought my dress in the states… I ordered it in october 2013 and it just arrived today.. so 6 months exactly… a lot of designers have rush delivery fees.. and you may even be able to buy the sample dress too! Don’t stress… you will be able to find and buy your dream wedding dress!
edit: my dress was allure… they did have rush shipping available (3 months instead of 6)
Post # 7
I second a PP about getting a custom dress. I’m getting my dress custom made, and my dress maker takes less than 3 months to finish a dress. I think perhaps you should still go to to the US to try on a ton of dresses and figure out what you love, then go to South Africa and find a seamstress to replicate your favorite or combine your two favorites or something. You could also order a replica or design from Jasmine’s Bridal or one of the other sellers in China if you’re on a budget.
Post # 8
Thanks for the advice ladies.
@charlie486 and @ladyamalthea: I actually looked into getting a custom made dress here in Seoul but the prices I was quoted were ridiculous.
I have to fly to the states anyway to sort out visas and paperwork so I think while I’m there I’ll try some on to see which styles suit me. Then depending on what feedback I get about how long it will take, I might get a dress maker in SA to make one.
Again thanks to everyone- I’m trying really hard not to panic. I’ll let you know what happens and post some pictures.