(Closed) Do I have the right to ask them not to put this in the speech?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you do. Just stress how important this detail is and make sure you clearly tell her that it makes you uncomfortable. You shouldn’t have to feel uncomfortable at your reception!

Can i guess which site? ;-P 

Post # 4
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1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would say that at weddings, I half-listen to the speeches.I would guess that most people will not notice nor care what your Maid/Matron of Honor says. And if they do, who cares? You met your Fiance, you’re getting married, and so at the end of the day, whether you met online or at the supermarket doesn’t really matter.

You’ve already expressed your opinion on it to your Maid/Matron of Honor. Maybe she will change her mind when it gets to the big day.

I would say you have better things to worry about. 🙂

Post # 6
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2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’d reiterate. Sometimes people don’t take these requests that seriously at first. But if you go back later and say that you haven’t been able to stop thinking about it and it will really hurt you for her to mention it, I think how important it is to you will sink in.

Post # 7
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995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@blinx:  umm what is this site that is so bad? Because judging from peoples reactions it sounds like you met on Craigslist Casual Encounters lol

I’m sure that it doesn’t sound as seedy as you fear–but you should make it crystal clear that you don’t want it mentioned if it bothers you

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

A true friend would be respectful of your wishes, especially when you’re talking about something personal to you that makes you uncomfortable if it were made public.  I’d ask again for her to please remove it from the speech, and if she cannot, then I’d let her know that you may not be able to accomodate her speech in your wedding.  

Post # 10
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1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You can ask, but you have zero control over what comes out of their mouths when they’re at the mic, practically speaking.  Maybe this is a veiled attempt to get out of making a speech (if they’ve got such bad stage fright they need to be up there with somone?)…

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

No one has the right to make you feel uncomfortable at your own wedding. Tell her to leave it out, please. I couldn’t even fathom embarrassing my friend at her own wedding.

Post # 13
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2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I must confess I asked my Maid/Matron of Honor to omit something from her speech. She did so without question, thankfully. (This may have been my bridezilla moment!).

Post # 14
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7606 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I’d put my foot down.  Like a PP said, you deserve to not feel uncomfortable at your own wedding!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@blinx:  A lot of people are really that perturbed by public speaking.  I’d ask them directly if they’re just uncomfortable making a speech, and be prepared to offer to not have them make one if they’d prefer not to.

Post # 16
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827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We are not having speeches at our wedding, mostly because I’m uncomfortable watching wedding speeches! Instead we are having our Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man read an italian and irish wedding blessing. Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man are relieved about that because there is no pressure to be witty and we are relieved because we don’t risk embarassment…and our guests will be relieved because they won’t be forced to laugh.

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