(Closed) Do I have the right to be mad?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would be mad….there is no excuse for a grown man with responsibilities not to be able to let you know where he is…..let him know this shit will not fly in the future.  Sorry about the rough night girl!

Post # 4
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Busy bee

Some people will probably say it’s no big deal, but it would piss me off.  I think you should tell him you were worried about him and maybe suggest he let you know next time, even if that means calling or texting from a friend’s phone. 

Post # 5
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@MalbecMe:  +1. Don’t go of the deep end, but do let him know that you were worried and would really appreciate if he’d let you know when he’s going to be late. Sometime men can be careless, so he probably didn’t do this intentionally.

Post # 6
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1021 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yeah, I would be mad. It sounds like that isn’t characteristic of him, but he should at least know that it worried you. To me, texting one of my fiance’s friends is the very last resort before calling the police. I’d be pissed if it came to that. 

Post # 7
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I would be pissed if my man didnt call. Its very inconsiderate of him to make you worry like that. 

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

@PinkAndPearls2013:  I would be upset but not that upset. He should never, ever do that again. My husband knows how much I worry!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m with all the others who would be very annoyed. It doesn’t take very long to send a quick text… He was just totally inconsiderate. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@PinkAndPearls2013:  Don’t feel bad. My SO always responds to my anything so once, when he didn’t I drove an hour to his house to make sure he was ok. He was and I left. He thought it was sweet since he knows my maternal insticnt is super strong! I say so long as he understands you were worried because you care and weren’t jealous it shouldn’t be an issue.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yeah, I’d be pissed and he should have called from a friend’s phone. I’d tell him you were worried and he used his one shot at making you feel this way. I think sometimes guys revert to high school mentality – he may have known he was going out drinking and didn’t want to tell you so he could feel “free” or whatever so he pre-emptively told you his phone was dying. I’d go out tomorrow and get him a car charger for his cell phone so he never has to have a dead phone again.

Remember, he took care of himself before you arrived in his life so chances are good he’s fine and God forbid something bad did happen, you’d definitely find out (put an emergency contact card in his pocket and list yourself as his ICE on his phone).

If he ever does it again, I’d make sure I wasn’t home when he got there and let him know what worrying feels like.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I know I would be livid because this has happened to me. I got out of school early and I went home, he stayed at work to finish a project. When I didn’t see him,  I thought it was weird. Anyway to make the long story short, I waited for a couple of hours because he wasn’t answering his phone and then I just took off looking for him, I was goign to call the police. He said that since I was in school he didn’t say anything, but I was really upset because I was so worried. So YES! you have the right to be so freakin mad! 

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I would be abit peeved at this because I would have been worried too and thinking all kinds of things, my SO also has a class twice a week and is usually home about 9:30, If he didn’t come home until after 11 and didn’t make contact I think I’d go abit crazy at him. Maybe just tell him how it made you feel and tell him that you have no problem with him going to the pub but he needs to let you know he will be home late because you worry.

xx

Post # 15
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Helper bee

awww just read your update im glad you sorted it :] xx

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

I am glad he is okay and you are a good girl for not going crazy on him. But he has to realize that if his phone is about to die and you expect him to be home around a certain time adn he wants to stay out a few hours later, that you would be worried. Why do guys think that they could do whatever they want without telling us? Do we girls do that?

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