- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
IM SORRY ITS SO LONG!
I have been engaged since July 20, 2010!
My Matron of Honor and Maid of Honor were NO question! My two most important and favorite cousins! Rachel* the Matron of Honor and Holly* the Maid of Honor!
Rachel, 25, lives about 45min away, married in 2007 and I was her Maid of Honor. She now has a little boy that just turned two and just told me they are going to begin trying for #2.
Holly, 27, lives about 30min away, works two jobs and lives at home with her parents and helps take care of her injured dad.
I asked them soon after we got engaged, I actually recently read how picking too abruptly can become challenging later on…as I see now! I’ll get to that soon! I was so excited, I mean after 7 years, can you blame a girl!?!?
We waited a while sine we knew we were going to have a longer engagement, that we would hold off on the Engagement party until November. We at the time were hoping to get married Nov. 2011, so we picked November thinking it would be the 1 year kick off to get married. That later changed! But for the better! 🙂
DAY OF PARTY Holly meets me at the park extra early to help set up and stays extra late to help clean up! She was amazing and kept me calm and awesome through it all! That day was pretty disastrous but I didnt let it bother me, okay I tried not to at least! Lol! Well ALL week prior to the party Rachel texts/emails me asking how she can help, i tell her to be there a little early to set up and that’d be enough! Well day of party, she texts mom at party start time saying she’s on her way with her parents cuz her car broke down…TWO and a HALF HOURS later, they arrive. She tells me she has to leave in 40min…I smile and walk away.
Nov. 20th Holly and I go B-maid dress shopping together, we’ve always been closer! It was a great time and we found a dress that we loved on her! Holly is a plus size girl with a ++ size chest, so we had to find something suitable for her and I figured the other girls would have no issue finding something! Well I tell the girls I want to have them all try the dress on! It was perfect! So we decide a day to go to LA, since its an hour trip. Dec. 4th. All the girls agree! Then DAY BEFORE THANKSGIVING I get this email from Rachel, saying how her hubby just got a huge ticket and since they are going to be trying now for a baby she doesnt know if its smart to buy a dress now not knowing if she is going to be pregnant or not. Mind you they just started trying, so this is a big IF. (I understand the Trying To Conceive World! Trust me! I do! We were trying too! Another story! lol) **Oh and a little backstory, her wedding, we had to order her dresses the day she picked them out, her wedding was like 6 months out, no questions! Back to now, she says how she cant afford it right now and blah blah blah! Ok so I got pretty upset about it, first the park, and the bride tank and I mean I have a lot of backstory with her but she’s just a selfish person, only thinks of herself! So I decide, you know what she is right, anything can happen between now and then and I email back “No worries, we’ll deal with whatever state you may be in when that time comes! I am going to stop planning for the holidays! Enjoy them!” And I told all the girls to forget the Dec. 4th trip! So YESTERDAY! I hop on Facebook, I am home with the Flu, and I see her status…45min out of Phoenix…My heart drops…yesterday was Dec. 4th…she said they were “Financially strapped” and now they are driving out to Phoenix?! So me being me…commented on her status. “Good thing we didnt go dress shopping today, you wouldnt have been able to make it.” And of course she has replied back.
I feel like I have taken enough from this girl! I mean how much more “insensitive and inconsiderate” is she going to get?!
What should I do!?!?
I know in the end I can only blame myself…but does anyone have any advice or recommendations for me?! I just really wish she was more HONEST with me.