(Closed) Do I have the right to be upset?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would be a little hurt but then drop it. He made a mistake and I’m sure he feels like an ass for it. Don’t waste your time being sad about it.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think you’re overreacting just a wee bit.  It’s not like your fiance called you by his ex’s name.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

Eh, it’s awkward, but it’s easy to make a mistake like that. I would let it slide, but I don’t blame you for being a bit upset about it. Did your Future Father-In-Law apologize?

Once I called my sister’s long term boyfriend by her ex’s name and I was very embarassed and apologized immediately lol.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

He did it on purpose? Or by mistake?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would let it go. Sounds like he just got confused. 

I’m a twin and people have been calling me the wrong name my whole life!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

yes you have the right to be upset, that is awkward and I would be hurt too. But you have to drop it. and move forward. Your Fiance may be awkard about it to and just wants to move on. Your wedding is a month away!!!!!! look forward to it and try to get over it (yes, hard to do but you have to put it behind you) I hope he apologized!

Post # 9
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Honey bee

Ive done that before. It sucks, I am sure he feel bads and I would let it drop.  I call my husband by my brothers name once in a while. Things like that just happen.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Bridal_Mouse:  was he drunk?  did he do it on purpose?

I think it’s a little weird he said the wrong name TWICE, and then shouted it the second time… I’d be pissed.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

You are overreacting. It sucks, but it’s going to happen. It’s just part of the way our brains work.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

That’s awkward, but try to let it go.  Like a PP said, it’s not like your fiance called you the wrong name.  People are creatures of habit!  You said it’s only been about 2 years, was she around for many years before that?  Don’t worry, it sounds like it was an honest mistake.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You’re probably just stressed from the wedding so things like this are probably magnified more so than usual. Let it go and focus. The wedding is almost here!

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

Older folk are pretty good @ forgetting names. Heck… I confuse girlfriends’ names all the time. I agree that it was pretty awkward, but if his father likes you, who cares? His slip is no reason to be miserable & not enjoy the wedding planning process & time w/your Fiance & his family. It was obviously an “old person” moment. I would let it go. 🙂

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Bridal_Mouse:  I can understand being embarrassed.  I think you should look at the situation as an opportunity to show your gracious nature; if they looked at you to see how you’d react, and you didn’t react by yelling “HOW DARE YOU?” you passed the test.  It’s hard being put on the spot, but at least it was an honest mistake.

If you can laugh about it now, people will take it as a sign of your good nature.  Even if now you say, “I was embarrassed, but I understand how it could have happened, it was an honest mistake,” people will take it as a sign of your good nature.  We can’t control what other people do, but our reactions to their actions are how the world will judge us.

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