(Closed) Do I have to…

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1767 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Do you mean announcements or invitations?

We didn’t send ‘announcements’; we did, however, send invitations. If that’s the case, I would do it; it’s only 15 people, and it’s a special keepsake for them. 🙂

Post # 4
5360 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Happymrs616:  If everyone already knows I don’t see why you would need to send announcements. The last FOUR people to get married in our family did so with just their immediate families in attendence. Everyone heard about it and, in some cases, saw pictures. Not a single one sent announcements and no one asked about them to my knowledge. 

Post # 6
3949 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You might want to send a pic with an announcement to the older people in your family… just so they have a pic since most of the older folks aren’t on FB

Post # 7
7439 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Obviously you are talking Wedding Annoucements as you stated you are already married.

The short answer is NO… they are never a requirement.

But even tho people have no doubt by now heard the news… it still is nice / personal / polite when they hear it directly from you (more inclusive… they won’t feel left out)

Mr TTR and I eloped.  And we had a Back Home Reception Party for friends & family in town.  We have designed our Thank You Notes to do double-duty as Thank Yous and Annoucements (they are photo cards with pics from our Wedding).  We will be sending them to everyone who came to our Reception with our Thanks… as well as to those who sent their Regrets (as they didn’t see any pics etc in that they missed the Reception).  AND also to the folks from Out Of Town, who may not have heard the news… or whom we haven’t been in contact with.

In this way… all our nearest & dearest will have been informed as well as have a nice keepsake of us (pictures)

The do-it-yourself websites where you can design your own Cards (Wedding Stationery) like Wedding Divas, VistaPrint etc are awesome, because you are not confined to any one set idea etc (which is why our Thank You Cards & Wedding Annoucements can be the same printed item… they have pics on the outside… and WE ELOPED ! on the inside).  We’ll just write in whatever we need to say… or include a personal note on a seperate piece of paper.

Hope this helps,

PS… Not that it should matter, BUT I have heard some Brides say here on WBee that the BONUS to sending out Wedding Annoucements was that a few more gifts trickled in.  And they added up to being worth more than was spent on getting the Announcements Printed & Mailed.


Post # 8
1953 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You don’t have to, but I’m sure your family that couldn’t share your day would love receiving a copy of a wedding picture.

Post # 9
539 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Happymrs616:  no, you could put it in the paper though. that’s customary around here

Post # 10
1533 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

They’re not required but they’d probably be appreciated by some members. It’s up to you if you want to send them out but at the end of the day you’ve got no obligation

Post # 11
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I know I’m kind of an oddball, but I would personally feel like wedding announcements can come across as gift grabs when dealing with a small and/or destination wedding. I might send one to some of the older members of the family who have no access to facebook & may really enjoy a photo, but I’d skip them otherwise.

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