(Closed) Do I have to?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I get them something?
    yes, get them something and say it's from him : (0 votes)
    yes, get them something from you : (2 votes)
    3 %
    yes, get them something from both of you : (29 votes)
    49 %
    don't bother getting something for someone who wants to exclude you : (7 votes)
    12 %
    just bring cookies, like you do every year : (20 votes)
    34 %
    other : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    6741 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I always try to be the bigger person, especially with family members.  I would get something from the both of you – it doesn’t have to be anything special or thoughtful – but something.

    Post # 4
    642 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    If you gave her something before, then you should this year. And make it from both of you.  If you dont want to exchange anymore, you should clarify that well before Christmas.  And not giving her something out of spite is wrong.


    I dont exchange with my parents, and Fiance doesnt either. 

    Post # 6
    23597 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Eckle:  I would get them something any way, but probably not go above and beyond and get them anything super special.  Just something to say “Happy Holidays” with.

    Post # 7
    335 posts
    Helper bee

    Being kind to people during the holidays, at least on the surface, should not be restricted, or limited, by whether you believe they deserve it.  Hell, for me, being the way I am, that would push me to be extra kind to them just so that they’re the “bad” ones.

    Post # 9
    23597 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Eckle:  That sounds like a great plan! 🙂

    Post # 10
    2425 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I also think with family, you just have to suck it up and be the bigger person. Even if your Fiance doesn’t give them gifts, even if they don’t give YOU gifts, like it or not you are going to be part of the family (despite any snubs from your FMIL) so I would get them gifts. 

    Post # 11
    6355 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @Eckle:  If you don.t go, don’t send anythimg. If you do go, be a good guest and get them something.

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