Post # 1
We are paying for our wedding ourselves and are really feeling the strain of the budget. But even outside of that, I don’t really want my friends bringing guests that I don’t know. Any of our friends that are in a serious relationship have had their SO invited. BUT, for example, two of my bridesmaids are single and both are looking for guys to bring as dates. i have a couple issues with this. 1.) I want to spend time with them and not be worried about getting to know someone new on my special day. 2.) They are my BMs, they’ll be sitting with me and spending the day helping me… not doting on some new found guy that they drug to the wedding.
How do I politely ask them not to bring dates because they are what is important to me… not them trying to find boyfriends.
Also, one of my bridesmaids actually invited one of her friends (in front of me) to help us get ready the day of the wedding. I had just met the girl and I tried to explain that I have a list of MY friends that I want to spend my wedding with and there is a line of them wanting to help me get ready.
Am I a totally bridezilla or should my Bridesmaids not be inviting their friends to MY wedding?
Post # 3
They shouldn’t be inviting people higglety pigglety without running it by you, that’s for sure.. but i think you might, just might be going a little overboard with the whole “i don’t want to be worried about getting to know people on my special day”.
Post # 4
Personally, I would have given all my BMs a guest because they aren’t going to spend the whole time with you and they might be lonely during the other parts of the reception when you are tending to your other guests. You don’t have to get to know people’s guests, all you have to do is say hi and thanks for coming.
Post # 5
Depending on how large your wedding party is, they BMs really don’t have much to do once they are at the reception. They have plenty of time to enjoy the other guests and a date.
I agree with you though they should not be inviting people to get ready with you guys. You will have a lot going on that morning and it should be just those that are closest to you.
Post # 6
I do think it’s right to at least allow your bridal party guests. (Although I do understand budgetary guest restrictions.) They spend so much times, energy and $ to help make your day special. I think if they feel more comfortable having a date, I would try to allow it. You said they don’t have boyfriends. That can make weddings a little harder on some girls.
Also, you will get to spend time with them. The dates don’t go with them to get ready before the ceremony, or in the limo after etc. Your Bms will just be hanging out with them during the reception.
Post # 7
We gave the bridal party guests. We also allowed couples who are in a long term relationship, married couples and couples who live together the option. Not everyone gets one and we plan to put on the invites ____ of seats have been reserved in your honor and fill in the number for how ever many people in that party. Hopefully they will listen 🙂 We are maxed out on space.