Post # 1
I have quite a while til my wedding (17 months) and I was just wondering do I really have to ask the girls to be in my bridal party? We are not having a big wedding party but my bridal party is pretty much a given – I have 2 sisters, he has a sister, we have 2 daughters, and a neice, I am not involving female friends because I don’t feel I am close enough with anybody. I’ve talked to the sisters about the wedding colors and they have helped me pick out some dresses I like.
Should I “official” ask them to be in my wedding?
Post # 3
@ecrowe1218: Meh, you can hold off to ask anyone officially. Your sisters will help you if you need it regardless of being in the wedding party 🙂 Wait until 6-9 months prior to allow enough time to order dresses and alterations and stuff.
Post # 4
@ecrowe1218: At some point if you want them to have a particular role, i.e. walk down the aisle ahead of you and stand at the front of the church, you will have to ask them to be a bridesmaid. How else are they going to know they are attending as other than a guest?
You don’t have to do it right now, nor do you have to do it in a gimmicky way.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I would wait until it’s time to roder bridesmaid dresses. A lot can happen in the next year and a half that may make you regret your decision. Plus, there really aren’t any bridesmaid “duties” for them until 6-9 months before your wedding.
Post # 6
No just wait on it. I wish I hadn’t asked so early – I think I would have tried to have fewer girls if I knew THEN what I know NOW.
But you will have to ask them eventually. 🙂
Doesn’t need to be fancy, they just need to know what you expect of them.
Post # 7
since it is all family, I’m guessing you won’t change your mind. I’d ask them now. You don’t have to do something elaborate but you should ask them if they would be your bridesmaid (no one just simply assumes they are one)
Post # 8
You don’t have to do it right now and you don’t need to make a big deal about it, but I’d make sure you let them know “officially” at some point just so there’s no confusion.
Post # 9
You don’t have to do anything right now. At some point you will probably want to ask them if they want to. It would also be a good idea especially if you are picking out bridesmaids dresses.