(Closed) Do I Have To Be A BITCH?!?!?!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

Breathe girl!  If he is so great to you, and you’re so great to him, I’m sure a proposal is coming your way.  You just have to be patient.  You’ll get your happy ending. 🙂

PS: Please DO NOT be a bitch!

Post # 4
1812 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

Breathe!!! And seriously stop calling everyone a bitch or whore.

Just enjoy being together. Marriage is cool, but it’s not all that different from a long-term relationship. How long have you been with him? Are you living together?

Post # 5
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Well… Hmmm… You sound awfully angry about all of this. I wouldn’t worry too much about what anyone else is doing. Sometimes this is easier said than done, but you can’t know all of the details of their relationships. Maybe it’s not as perfect as you think.

Have you been with your bf for a long time? How old are you? Have you guys discussed marriage? What does he think about it? What do you want to get out of it… Stability? The ring? You want kids? Shared finances? Reassurance? It is also a lot of sacrifice because you(the couple together) becomes more important than you(individually).

Marriage is not the be all end all of life. Sometimes we can get wrapped up in that whole crazy industry and happily-ever-after illusion but there’s no such thing, not exactly.

Post # 6
4494 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

How long have you been together?

It sounds like you have a great guy. Just think of it this way – there are plenty of women married to douchebags. I think I’d rather have a wonderful boyfriend than an awful husband lol.

Don’t be a bitch though. If he is as great as you say then he doesn’t deserve to be subjected to those types of games. I’m sure your proposal is coming 🙂

Post # 7
702 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Iowa

It sounds like you have a really good relationship so why be jeolous?! You have a great guy! Appreciate him! I was in a relationship for 5+ years before he finally proposed, everyone has their own schedule, you don’t need to be married just because everyone else is.

Have you had a talk with your bf about moving forward in your relationship? Moving in together, or is there some kind of timeline for marriage? Does he WANT to get married? Without being a bitch, it is a good converstion to have with your bf.

Don’t compare your relationship to anyone else’s.

Post # 8
8437 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@aggie2010:  +100000!!  Especially the first part lol

Post # 9
1073 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Woosa, girl. Lol. I am sorry that you’re feeling upset, and I can totally understand. As women, we are constantly comparing ourselves and sometimes our relationships with others’. I would suggest sitting down with your man and talking about your future. Ask him to give you a timeline as to when he envisions you two getting married and starting a family. I find with my own husband that when he gives me timelines about things, it really eases my worries. Hope this helps! 🙂

Post # 10
7643 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

oh n a bitch who i knw was a whore i knw her since she was in the freakin 8th grade she got married to an amazing man

I hope you just said that because you are feeling hurt for your currenty situation. If not, this makes you look very unattractive and immature. I hope you don’t go around calling people that IRL.

I don’t know how old you are or how long you and your SO have been together, but even if he is a really good guy, and you are a really good women, there could be many, many reasons why he is holding off such as money, not ready, school, job, family, etc. If you tal kto him CALMLY you might be able to get somewhere. Perhpas he doesn’t know your urgency to mget married or doesn’t understand that this is what you want right now.

Post # 11
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I brought up getting married several times before my fiance popped the question.  Maybe he doesn’t think its in the cards yet.  Some guys need direction.  

I would bring up the idea of marriage and see what happens.

Post # 12
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@2ndbest:  relax!  it will come in due time…u obviously have a good man…dont chase him away by being a bitch…throw hints at him but dont be annoying with it…he will surprise u when u least expect it!

Post # 13
982 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Yikes. Do you say this stuff to him? Because that is guaranteed to discourage him from marrying you. Be happy and confident in your own life and he will want to remain a part of it. But if you keep up with this negativity/name-calling/Debbie downer crap, you are sure to drive him away!

Post # 14
6036 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

@2ndbest:  you said “…all i want is to share my life with some1 who loves me and i love him i just wanna be happy i wanna take care of some1 who can take care of me…”

Isn’t this what you are doing? I understand you want marriage. But have you spoken to your SO about your feelings on this? Maybe sitting down and talking about a time line of some kind would be good. Just to make sure you are both on the same page and headed in the right direction. Communication is key. don’t let things build up. If he is the right guy, being open and honest about your future shouldn’t be a problem.

Post # 15
7577 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@Fluffmallow:  +1

Don’t judge other people’s lives. You have no idea if they have it easy or not. I get that this is a place for some to vent so I’m really hoping you don’t actually act like this IRL.

Post # 16
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

To answer your question, no. You do not need to be a bitch. Being a bitch will not help anything. Why would he want to marry a bitch? You will have to be patient. You can make sure that he knows that you’re intersted in marriage. Make him aware that you plan on spending the rest of your life with him.

You cannot force things. Give it time.

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