(Closed) Do I Have to Choose a Color or Theme? Anyone NOT Choose One?

posted 6 years ago in Themes
Post # 3
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I did not have a theme but I had colors; plum and black.

You do have a color ivory/pale taupe for your girls, but that does not mean you can’t have whatever other color you wish since you went with neutrals you can choose so many lovely accent colors for flowers etc.

Post # 4
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Theme, no.

I think there should be some type of consistance with your colors.

Post # 5
488 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think a color theme will happen naturally as you pick coordinating decorations, but a “theme” theme is certainly not necessary. My theme is a wedding!

Post # 7
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My theme is “We’re getting married.” I wasn’t too fussed about colours either, but most of the decorations are turning out purple (which is what happens when you say you don’t care and let your sister plan the wedding!)

Post # 8
4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I guess my theme is Art Deco (which 90% of people will not pick up on), based on my dress and font on the invitations. Don’t have colors, silver/ white/ with pops of pink? I think some weddings start looking silly and kitschy with too much coordination.

If you don’t have a strict color/ these you have more flexibility with design. I used the same iea I used for my house- neutral and then you can do pops of color

Post # 9
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You don’t really need a color scheme or a theme, but a lot of brides find it helpful in decorating.  If you’re really stuck on ideas for decorating, though, how about drawing inspiration from your venue’s default decor? You’re having it outside in the early afternoon.  Neutrals are lovely in any setting, but you’d need a few pops of color.  How about those pops of color come from the color of the leaves?  Or the sky and sun?  Or even in-season flowers?  I found a list of those here: http://www.theflowerexpert.com/content/growingflowers/flowers-and-seasons


That’s much of what I’m doing for my wedding.  I do have a color scheme, sort of: Deep purple and ivory.  But there are other colors that are already going to be present, because I’m getting married at the Outer Banks and EVERYTHING is painted some pastel color, so I’m incorporating that into the wedding color scheme. 

Post # 10
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I didn’t have colors or a theme. The wedding was still beautiful and the world did not end. Our venue for ceremony and reception was a refurbished barn that had a lot of its own character and decor, plus I think the whole “this has to be purple because this is purple!!!!!!” matchy matchy thing is pretty 90s anyway.

Post # 11
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think there was a recent bee who ordered bridesmaid dresses in a bunch of colors. She didnt have any consistant colors and I thought it looked great!


Post # 12
4062 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I loving say our theme is “shit we like” 

Our color is eggplant but only because that is the color the BM’s are wearing. We’ve got touches of other colors as well, but all cool colors as we aren’t really red/orange/yellow people. One of our main “colors” is FI’s family tartan. 

Post # 13
11422 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I honestly had never even heard of people having themes for their weddings at the time I was planning my wedding.  I just wanted to have a very elegant, formal, evening wedding.

As for colors, I began with my bridesmaids’ dresses. I knew that I wanted them to be the most amazing shade of Caribbean-sea blue.  Every other color resulted from either something I knew that I wanted (for example, a light-ivory gown and flower girl’s dress and other wedding accessories; pink, creamy white, and celedon green flowers; black tuxedos with full dress tails and white pique vests and bowties) or a decision I had already made (my gorgeous, engraved, Crane invitations were shown in the sample with a silver-toned ribbon on them, and I loved them, and Darling Husband and I have platinum rings, so platinum/silver became another color), or a decision I needed to make (the pintuck table linens at our venue came in a variety of colors — I chose the champagne/gold colored ones.)  They became my colors.  It all looked beautiful together!

So, don’t worry at all that you don’t have a specific theme or colors. 🙂

Post # 14
685 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

My BMs are wearing black – their shoes are metallic nude with black lace overlay. My flowers will consist of muted rust, ivory, blush, and dark burgundy dahlias. My center pieces will be lush with flowers, curly willow, and eucalyptus.. As for accents the venue has gold fabric on their chairs so I plan on building in some gold accents around the cake and guest book table.. I’m not planning on adding any additional decor – I’m using my venue’s ivory table cloths and their white china.. I feel like I can get away with scrimping on little details since the venue is a grande ball room with hanging chandeliers and wood floors – basically it’s amazing on its own. I don’t really have much of a theme, I’m trying to stay within the muted fall colors I stated, with metallic accents here and there.. IDK.. I’m basically relying on my flowers to do the work. 

Post # 15
503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I ended up not really having a theme or colors – I love neutrals and our venue has a crazy amount of history, and we’re really into the 1930s, so that’s sort of a theme, but basically, we just picked things we liked and it’s all got a similar vibe because I just made sure things looked good together as it developed.  I think looking back now I’ve got some nautical vibes, some 1930s vibes, some rustic vibes, some semi-inudstrial vibes… all because it’s us getting married at this venue, and everything goes with both.  Its all very subtle, and it all goes, but its also eclectic.  I really doubt anyone there will be able to tell me what our colors are, or what the theme was, and I like it that way!

Post # 16
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My theme kind of evolved as the planning went on.  I chose plum for the bridesmaids dresses, and then as we were talking to the florist, I decided that I really liked pale peach, ivory, and green.  All of those colors kind of work together and have been the foundation of the entire wedding, even if I never specified that they were my “colors”.

And as for themes – I think they’re tacky 99% of the time.  You really only see weddings with themes (like “peacock wonderland”) on those intense bride shows.

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